I try my hardest to stay clear of my mother. She always have a way of making me feel like, why was I ever born.
Long story short, last week I stopped by because she wasn't feeling well. I knew I didn't want to be there too long but when I got there she asked me to address some boxes. Honestly I was extremely tired. I just wanted to stop in and go but she had some tasks for me. I addressed the box, did the other task and left. Well today she called yelling and screaming that I wrote the address wrong and that the person who was to receive the items hadn't. I asked if she had double check the boxes, since she was there yelling at the time that I was writing out the address and she tells me no then hangs up. I'm like what the crap.
First of all I got off late, secondly you have a 101 items for me to do when I get there. I'm exhausted plus frustrated. As I'm completing your tasks, you're yelling about something else. And lastly we don't have a good relationship so the only thing on my mind is getting out of there. I'd say I was bound to make a mistake. Ugh. The thing that bothers me most is she only called to tell me what I did wrong and then hangs up.
On a different note I deposited $4 to my $20 challenge because I had breakfast at home and packed my lunch. I also transferred $5 to the EF account because I went to Boston Market and picked up sides for dinner and had a cheese burger after work.
I forgot to add the $2 I saved today for using my coupons, I'll do that tomorrow.
On a different note, here are my three things that I'm thankful for:
• Another day that God has allowed me to see
• being able to push my mother's words and actions about the mailing address off to the side. I almost cried/crumbled but I looked at the positive, she won't ask me to do it again
• getting to bed before 11, whew
I almost crumbled but...
July 16th, 2014 at 02:50 am
July 16th, 2014 at 03:18 am 1405477093
You deserve to be treated with kindness and respect. Don't settle for less.
{{hugs}}
July 16th, 2014 at 11:41 am 1405507282
July 16th, 2014 at 02:21 pm 1405516903
I think IF you go to her place again, you need to immediately leave if she treats you in a negative way. Tell her that you will not tolerate that behavior in a calm tone. Then leave. Keep doing it that way every time.
OR cut all ties. It IS an option. Really!
You can also not pick up the phone when she calls, and delete her voice mails before you listen to them. It sounds harsh, but no on should have to be abused in that way.
July 16th, 2014 at 03:25 pm 1405520718
July 16th, 2014 at 03:44 pm 1405521891
In your blog it shows that you yourself are a sweet, kind, striving person. Why someone would feel the need to stomp all over that essential goodness, I just don't know. Please give yourself a bigger break from that hateful treatment because we need good people like you to be able to rise to their very best selves.
July 16th, 2014 at 06:16 pm 1405531010
July 16th, 2014 at 11:55 pm 1405551315
I've been staying away from my mom (literally), and will continue to do so. She needs some counseling and I can't help her