Sorry for the long post in advance.
So I'm at work and the fiancé calls, immediately I think, WTH does he want? I know if he's calling it's something. So I answer and he starts, "momma called crying, she doesn't have the money to pay the guys." I sit, I listen and I don't say a word. I let him go on explaining how once again she doesn't have the payroll for the guys, how he hates to see a woman cry.
Meanwhile I'm thinking a woman crying is the least of your worries. How can she call you on payday, after lunch to say she can't make payroll? Did she not know this on Monday, Tuesday, Wednesday or Thursday? Unbelievable, I'm so sick of this crap! I've told him time and time again to take over the business and let the accountant bill his clients. He's so adamant about not "hurting his momma's feelings." I mean get out of here! You won't be able to eat, if you don't hurt her feelings. He tells me he's short $240.
We hang up because there's colleagues in the office. I call back after everyone leaves, and low and behold I open my big mouth, and say I can lend it to you, just let me know. WTH was I thinking? Why? At some point he and his momma need to learn a hard lesson. He tells me he'll let me know. At 4:57 I get a text he needs $400. WTF happened to $240? Now I'm more pissed than ever. Then I'm asked what time will I get there? Um I'm not rushing due to both you and your mother's lack of motivation, responsibilities, and respect for others. I deliberately arrive a hour and a half later. I felt bad because his worker was there waiting.
I realized today, I cannot marry this man. Nice doesn't cut it. A good heart doesn't cut it. Things were fine until we decided to live together. He was always late with his share of the bills, sad thing is I didn't realize the reason being is because his mother won't pay him. It's stressful for me. Always bailing out. I do get my money back however it's annoying.
I have about $9K saved in an account at a credit union about 50 miles away. This is part of the money from dad. I deliberately left the funds there, never got a ATM card, just left it. I signed up for FPU because I wanted to learn how to live off of my earnings, manage my money and make better decisions. That money is for a true emergency, my own emergency not someone else's. I was hoping he would have been onboard with the FPU. I'm so glad I did not co-mingle my funds with him. You all were right, he needs to save his own $1,000 for his emergencies.
We're suppose to take holiday photos, I paid the deposit because he didn't have the money. I am texting the young woman to tell her we will be canceling, getting my money back and apply it to the CC2. Ridiculous!
So the young woman we're donating to. He asked me if we were giving away Thanksgiving meals this year. I say no because it's not in my budget, he tells me how he enjoys it and since we started we should continue. I reluctantly give in.
Long story short I figured we'd spend $20 each to get a total of $40 in food, low and behold I'm sure his mom didn't pay him so he won't have the money now I'm stuck. It's fine because it's for a good cause but I had $35 for an item I didn't purchase, and thought I could pay $15 on CC2, after posting here, a pay $20 towards the food. I guess it was just meant to be to spend the $35. Unbelievable!
So I'm not getting married, goal is to pay down CC debt so that I can find a place just for me. He's never going to change and his mom doesn't care how her not paying him impacts his relationship. Then again why should she? I mean, I'm always bailing them out.
Fiancé Rant! Sorry
Sorry for the long post in advance.