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Have to keep pushing

December 23rd, 2017 at 05:49 pm

I cannot wait to get out of this hell of a relationship.

Today the SO gave me back the $400 πŸ’΅ he owed me. Almost three months later πŸ™„. I told him on Friday I wanted the money before the new year.

He goes on to tell me that he had over $400 in Christmas bonuses from his clients that he let his mother keep. Then he tells me that he gave his two youngest daughters $250 each, mind you they are 16, for Christmas πŸŽ„. I don't say a word, I just listen. Besides I got my money, so I can careless and am working on my 2018 planner.

Now he's talking about how he wanted to pay what he owed before the new year, I'm still in my leave me alone mode while I get ready for 2018 πŸ™„. Then he hits me with the "I'm so broke right now." I'm like wth! You gave your mother, mind you who is running the business in the ground close to $500, plus your two teenage daughters a total of $500 for Christmas. And did I mention he gave one (daughter) an additional $50 bucks because she cleans the house, what! She lives there. Apparently he pays her every week to do so. Total $1050.

Now he's whining about not having any money, as if he wants me to feel sorry and say here you go. Sorry buddy, I'm utterly disgusted with you.

First of all, as I have said in the past, and I'm done talking, I was simply thinking πŸ’­ the following:
1. Your license is suspended and you just provided $1,000 to family in Christmas gifts
2. You have a pass due balance, again on the cable, of $136, and you just gave out $1,000 in Christmas gifts
3. You just spent close to $500 on a house Christmas party and gave away almost $200 of liquor that you could have returned and did I mention the $1,000 in Christmas gifts?
4. You're off for an entire week and won't get a check, mind you, he barely gets one from the mother, rent is due and you just provided a $1,000 in Christmas gifts 🎁

I'd say your priorities are all screwed up. The new me, can careless. I have goals in that I'm trying to accomplish like one, getting out of debt; two buying a house; three retiring at 57 and four traveling in my retirement. Can't do that with a person whose priorities are all messed up. Who continues to live like the Jones, who doesn't respect me enough to know how important it is reach these goals.

As he talked I just listened and worked on my planner. His voice reminded me why it's so important to pay down this debt, sell the house and move.

Pushing forward and not looking back

5 Responses to “Have to keep pushing ”

  1. DW Says:

    πŸ€œπŸΌπŸ€›πŸΌ

  2. creditcardfree Says:

    You are doing awesome! I know it is hard to watch someone else not get it. Any idea how soon you will move?

  3. crazyliblady Says:

    Does he know it's over?

  4. Amber Says:

    CCF, the goal is to pay off CC3 by the end of January, sell the house in February and pay off the remaining credit cards the same month with the money from the sale. If everything goes well, I'll be able to put a down payment on a condo or the villa that we are in (putting him out). So hopefully no later than April.

    Crazyliblady, I've told him time and time again that if our finances aren't in order and that we both are making traction that I can't move forward. I've decided to stop talking about it and show him that I am serious. Sometimes talking isn't enough

  5. Out of the Dark Says:

    Merry Christmas Amber.

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