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He can't be serious

December 30th, 2011 at 03:56 am

Well I went to BestBuy with the BF last night, and he bought 2 CDs totaling almost $40. All I could say to myself is You can't be serious? Really? Just two or so days before you didn't have money to put gas in your car and you receive a few payments ( for jobs he had done) and you go and buy CDs, wow. Unbelievable! And to top it off, his family is having a get together and requested, by his aunt, that everyone gives $25, of course I was perplexed, she couldn't be serious. $25 to attend a BBQ? $10 from each person would be more than enough to buy food and drinks. Needless to say I told him I was not going. In the end, the aunt asked him to buy a case of chicken, a little more than $50, and of course he did. He has a serious problem of not wanting people to think he is "broke" per se; however, moving forward I don't have a problem with it. If people think I am "broke" which by the way I am, that's perfectly fine with me, because they won't ask me to buy any thing.

I know when Monday or Tuesday rolls around and he has no gas money or lunch for work, he better not look my way because I am BROKE!

So the good news, I deposited the $150 my dad gave me into my challenge/EF account, keeping my end of year goal--$1000 saved by December 31( I started November 14th).
Also today I will tackle CC1 making a $120 payment vs. the minimum payment, brining the total down to about $520 Smile the goal is to have this CC payed off by January 31st.

I know I have said this before but I am glad to be back blogging about my finances. This blog keeps me accountable, I'm more embarrass to say I spent foolishly to strangers than I am friends, not to say we're not friends.
I feel as though, those of us on this blog is somewhat a sort of family without faces Smile
Thanks to all of you who read my blogs, who are honest about things that you see that I am blind too, your thoughts and opinions mean a lot to me

13 Responses to “He can't be serious”

  1. CCraw Says:

    Way to go getting that EF goal!! When BF goes broke and has no money for gas just stick to your guns and quit bailing him out...maybe that will make him think!! Good luck!

  2. Amber Says:

    Thanks CCraw, that is exactly the plan. I've already laid the foundation, I have told him several times that " I am in the poor house or I am broke"Big Grin There comes a time in ones life that we have to say enought is enough

  3. ceejay74 Says:

    Good thinking, Amber. It sounds like he's nickel-and-diming you away from your goals. If he thinks you don't have the money, he'll have to figure out a better way to handle his own. Smile

  4. creditcardfree Says:

    You definitely have your head on straight and are very clear what your goals are. Keep up the great work!

  5. DeniseNTexas Says:

    Amber, you're doing great! I agree that you shouldn't bail out the BF. As we all know, that's enabling him to keep doing what he's doing and that's not good. You rock, girl, you rock!!

  6. ThriftoRama Says:

    Wow. What do you say to that?
    Our friends in Nola always used to rib us for being cheap-- crappy old car (which we still have and has north of 200k), second hand clothes. They never got it. Now that we're older they understand more why we live like this.

  7. Jenn Says:

    Amber, you're doing the right thing not to bail out your BF - I can relate. Sending it all to pay off debt or just saying "I'm broke" is a short-term strategy though. If you stay with this guy for the long haul, you'll want to reach a point that you can be completely honest: "I DO have that much money in my EF, but your mismanagement of money is not an emergency".

  8. PNW Mom Says:

    Great job on the EF and good luck with the boyfriend....I like the comment above.....his mismanagement of his money is not your emergency....stick to you guns! You can do it!

  9. CB in the City Says:

    Family without faces. I like that!

    You must love the guy, huh? I know how hard it is to deal with someone like that; my sister is just the same way -- if she has a nickel in her pocket she'll spend it!

  10. Mary Ann Says:

    Sounds like you are doing great!! Best wishes for a good 2012!

  11. Ima saver Says:

    Keep up the good work, Amber!

  12. Amber Says:

    Thanks every one, your support it means a lot Smile

  13. FrugalTexan75 Says:

    This must be a really great guy in other ways Smile Do stick to your guns about not bailing him out. You are setting a precident every time you give in - ie it makes it harder to say no.

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