So we had a break in, 80% of my items were stolen and the BF is moping. Now I'm upset that the house was broken into but I'm also thankful that much more wasn't taken or damaged. It's like get over it.
My BF on the other hand has been in the dumps all night and day. He can't sleep, keeps walking up and down the street for the canister that the thief stole that belonged to his dad. I understand that the can belonged to his dad, but I'm just like really? The world is not going to stop now. It was a Heineken can, I'm just thankful that the jerk didn't damage the photos. I'm also thankful that no one was hurt during this break in. I really just want to order another one. The can itself is about $20, and yes I understand that it belonged to your dad, but good grief. I'm missing a $1500 bracelet plus two karat diamond earrings.
I'm sorry I know death is hard, we know it's unavoidable but his dad has been dead four years and we're still dealing with mourning. Next month it's his birthday and I'll have to tip toe around feelings all month.
I'm sorry
Am I insensitive?
January 23rd, 2016 at 07:20 pm
January 23rd, 2016 at 07:37 pm 1453577849
January 23rd, 2016 at 07:56 pm 1453579018
You mention the photos, which I can only assume have sentimental value to you and that is why you're glad they were not ruined. Is it possible that this can is his 'photos'? Theft, especially a break-in into your home, is very violating and maybe that is what he is reacting to?
Not to be a contrary, but both your views are valid and I wouldn't say you're being a jerk, but that you probably need to acknowledge that his feelings are as valid as yours.
Again, I hope that you don't find my comments abrasive and if you do, I completely apologize. I just hope you undertand I am coming from a genuine place of sympathy for you.
January 23rd, 2016 at 09:19 pm 1453583946
You lost some moderately expensive jewelry, but he is probably re-confronting the loss of his father again. Is 4 years really all that long? Have you lost a parent? I haven't so I don't have first hand experience with how long it might take to "get over it" for lack of a better term.
I don't think you should replace the canister with a new one. Does he have anything else of his dad's or was that it? I feel sad for him. he might find it comforting if you just walk around the street with him, helping him lol. Even if you're not really looking, just be there with him.
January 23rd, 2016 at 09:19 pm 1453583981
You lost some moderately expensive jewelry, but he is probably re-confronting the loss of his father again. Is 4 years really all that long? Have you lost a parent? I haven't so I don't have first hand experience with how long it might take to "get over it" for lack of a better term.
I don't think you should replace the canister with a new one. Does he have anything else of his dad's or was that it? I feel sad for him. he might find it comforting if you just walk around the street with him, helping him look. Even if you're not really looking, just be there with him.
January 23rd, 2016 at 10:08 pm 1453586886
I understand your point and will definitely try to do better and give him some space.
January 23rd, 2016 at 10:14 pm 1453587282
January 23rd, 2016 at 10:18 pm 1453587487
I'm sorry your place got broken into. I remember when my car was broken into - they stole a lot of things. Some fairly valuable (like my car stereo/cd changer) and some only sentimentally valuable (box of cassette tapes, some mix-tapes by old boyfriends.)It sure doesn't feel good.
January 23rd, 2016 at 11:51 pm 1453593098
I'm definitely taking all of you all's words and advice, 🙏🏾
January 24th, 2016 at 04:06 am 1453608377
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