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Glad the weekend is over

December 11th, 2011 at 08:38 pm

Whew! I am really glad the weekend is over. First, Friday night we went to the boat parade, a first for me, and it was really nice. Then Saturday, we attended a parade downtown which was also nice and fun. However, my BF lost his dog tag I bought him for his birthday Frown
Lastly, today was the BF youngest daughter's birthday party. I can't understand for the life of me that he insist on spending all this money for a birthday party, when he has all this back child support to take care of. I offered to buy the cake, my gift to his daughter, and I made it clear, I am not spending a ton of money on a cake. Last year I think he spent close to $80 on a cake. The cost of the cake $35.
Now the kicker is, after the party the daughter whose birthday it is called because she was hungry. What! Are you kidding me? I gave him $30 because, apparently he had no money for the week. So I ask why spend the money? His response " Becsuse I had it at the time" My response, "Yes, that's true but what are you going to do for the rest of the week?" of course no response.
The only reason why I gave him the $30 is because I know if the shoe was on the other foot he would do the same. I did tell him, we are going to have serious problems if he does not make an effort to get his finances under control.

I asked him, if he would like to set a limit on Christmas gifts, he said no. But I already know I am not spending over a $100 on him. This is crazy, you can't afford it, I'd rather not even exchange gifts this year.
Long story short, I am out $75 in gifts, $40 for gas, and about $10 in miscellaneous stuff.

2 Responses to “Glad the weekend is over”

  1. LuckyRobin Says:

    You really need to stop giving him money. If he knows he can come to you for it, he has no incentive to clean up his act. You say you gave it to him because he would do it if the shoe was on the other foot, but so far as I can see, the shoe has never been on the other foot (because he never has any money) since you started blogging again, so are you really sure of that? Seems like throwing good money after bad. Also, it already seems like you are having serious problems. I think you need to take money out of the equation of this relationship altogether.

  2. veronak Says:

    LR you are absolutely right. The problem is that I lose track when I am not blogging and tend to have the same spending habits as my BF. Blogging puts things in perspective for me and keeps me accountable, unfortunately he had not found his own methods. So now that I am back blogging, spending money foolishly is an absolutely no,no. In addition, I haven't had serious one-to-one talk with him about my direction/goals I have and what his are; however, once I do he will then have to decide what he will/want to do.

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