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Cleaning House

August 22nd, 2019 at 08:49 pm

I’ve been on a cleaning decluttering spree, since the SO left.

Last night I got home and tried placing that dingy sofa 🛋 the SO had in the spare room on the dump for pick up and it got stuck in the hallway 🤦🏽‍♀️🙄. I had no one to call but him to help me get it out. I’m glad we parted ways on good terms. We were able make a few adjustments and get it out. I am so relieved. I still got a few things to get out of that room but the sofa was a must.

I was going to put the elliptical on the dump but since the room will be cleaned out, I decided to keep it and actually use it.

I bought a new shower curtain for the spare bathroom 🛁 and need a new rug and then that’s it for me, nothing else. I’m not even going to paint until maybe October. I literally wiped out my fun money buying stuff.

I printed out my pay stub so I’ve got to update the budget, and my MSMoney software. The next two weeks will be extremely tight for me. The electric bill stays the same and the water went up about $20, I suspected that since I’ve been pressure cleaning the patio. I’ve got to invest in a rain container, so that I can use that water to wash the patio.

I hosted bible study and everyone loved the patio. It’s shameful that, that patio was such a mess but hey it’s cleaned now.

Update.
I found the rugs, and they look great. But then I noticed where the SO use to hang towel is filthy, so I’ve been literally cleaning that area with bleach and will have to tackle at least every other day to get it back clean 🧼 🤦🏽‍♀️🙄.

I just don’t know how if your cable of cleaning, and you see something that’s dirty, you don’t clean it 🤦🏽‍♀️🙄

Wednesday Ramblings

August 21st, 2019 at 07:35 pm

Today I got home and tried placing that dingy sofa 🛋 the SO had in the spare room on the dump for pick up and it got stuck in the hallway 🤦🏽‍♀️🙄. I had no one to call but him to help me get it out. I’m glad we parted ways on good terms. We were able make a few adjustments and get it out. I am so relieved. I still got a few things to get out of that room but the sofa was a must.

I was going to put the elliptical on the dump but since the room will be cleaned out, I decided to keep it and actually use it.

I bought a new shower curtain for the spare bathroom 🛁 and need a new rug and then that’s it for me, nothing else. I’m not even going to paint until maybe October. I literally wiped out my fun money buying stuff.

I printed out my pay stub so I’ve got to update the budget, and my MSMoney software. The next two weeks will be extremely tight for me. The electric bill stays the same and the water went up about $20, I suspected that since I’ve been pressure cleaning the patio. I’ve got to invest in a rain container, so that I can use that water to wash the patio.

Other than that no other new updates

Happy

August 20th, 2019 at 07:12 pm

Today was a pretty good day. I got to visit with my aunt, who is here for a week staying at another aunt’s home.

When I got home tonight, I tackled the spare bathroom. SO, left that shower 🚿 curtain a mess, and the tub 🛁 needed to be cleaned 🧼 .

I tell you what, it’s the best feeling coming home to a clean house. I did go over budget, using my fun money, to buy things for the house, but I’m glad I did. Not to mention all was paid for with cash. Everything looks and feels amazing.

I thought I was going to miss the SO, but I tell you, I’m so loving living by myself. Not coming home and cleaning while someone else sits on the couch 🛋 feels great, no more dirty dishes 🍽 in the sink, no more moving that filthy work bag from my clean chairs, no more placing a wet glass without a coaster on my nice table, or walking onto the patio with a crap load of stuff everywhere, feels great. It really does feels wonderful. The way that I like things are the way that they are. I just want to scream with joy.

I’m so thankful to God, for preparing me for this day, allowing me to pay off debt, and not be filled with grief or guilt.

I’m just HAPPY 😃

Patio is Done!

August 19th, 2019 at 06:55 pm

Finally the patio is done! The gate is painted and so is the cement ground. I had no clue about using a sealer 🤦🏽‍♀️🙄, so this weekend I’ll be adding a top coat.

I’m so pleased with this patio, you have no idea. It just feels good to come home to a clean 🧼 space.

I’ve also brought some life to my living room space. I bought a few accent home decor items, and made my throw pillows. Oops my sister also gave me a set as well. Things are looking great and I’m feeling great.

The holiday weekend I’ll be tackling the extra bedroom. 🤦🏽‍♀️🙄 that’s going to be a few weekends project.

But here is a photo of the patio, I still have to add the rug and other
miscellaneous decor items.


Patio Update

August 18th, 2019 at 10:25 am

Well we ran out of paint for the fence, I’ll have to get another two gallon tomorrow to finish the other half and then I’m done. We are now working on the cement ground.

I tell you nothing like a fresh coat of paint that makes a heck of a difference.

Hello Saturday

August 17th, 2019 at 10:20 am

Honestly I’m so thankful that this week is up! It’s been long, slow and frustrating.

I’ve been on the hunt for a few accent pieces for the house, spent money, I probably should not have. I ended up taking a few things back, and have two additional items to return.

I got my sewing machine back, cost was $45, apparently the only thing that was wrong was that the feed dog needed to be adjusted and I did that, so I thought, before taking it in.

I managed to make one pillow last night and will do the rest today.

Woke up, turned the tv on and was like wow, I can’t believe it but I no longer have cable. I’ll admit, it’s a little strange but hey, I’m saving money. I’ll be picking up an antenna today.

I’ll be tackling the patio today. We are finishing up changing out the wood panels, and then I’ll paint.

Update, the cable isn’t off yet, lol I think today is the last day

Always Something

August 13th, 2019 at 08:03 pm

I really wanted to finish my throw pillows for the patio but I’m having issues with both sewing machines. Took one into the shop; hopefully, it won’t be too expensive.

Tomorrow I’ll be returning some things I bought that I do not need 🙄🤦🏽‍♀️, buyers remorse.

I’m also annoyed because we agreed to have bible study 📖 tonight, I bought chips and fruit, about $15 only to have the ladies to cancel. Ugh

I can’t wait for this week to be over.

Family Debacle

August 11th, 2019 at 04:50 am

What a day yesterday was.

I really hate when people waste my time.

First, I had a 6 am hair cut appointment, then I stopped at Walmart. Picked up a few things that I need to take back.

Next I was to attend a brunch/lunch 10 am for my cousin . Got there, well the host or family wasn’t there. No one showed up until close to 12 and the food arrived close to one. I love my family but this was absolutely ridiculous.

Then the lady who was suppose to look at my sewing machine, gave me the wrong time and was not available.

Lastly, I’d stopped by Joann fabric looking for a screwdriver for my machine, was told they didn’t carry it. Well I went back to look and there it was, a ton of them. Well I bought it, told the rep who was helping me where I had found them . But guess what? I can’t use on my machine, it’s too small 🤦🏽‍♀️🙄

I was so annoyed I really wanted to finish my pillows yesterday.

SO called, honestly I think he’s on the verge of a nervous breakdown. I just listened. I personally think he needed a friend without judgement, he hasn’t asked to move back or a second chance, so I listened and shared my advice.

1. The daughter with the baby called, while he was a few hours a way at a funeral. Her employer ask that she come in and she needed a sitter. He told her she couldn’t go. It’s obvious she doesn’t understand the severity and what’s needed to raise a child. I made a recommendation for a free first time mother seminar and I’ll do it again.
2. The mother has drove him nuts. He’s so disgusted with her, I can’t even share here what she did. I told him to get her counseling
3. He told me he told his mother he will be getting his own place. I think he will and this would be the best thing for him.
4. I personally think it was good he went home so that he could finally see how dysfunctional things were/are

Cash Envelopes, Software and Other Stuff

August 9th, 2019 at 08:04 pm

Just updated my MSMoney software, added my cash to my envelopes and the only thing left is to meal plan.

I sort of fell off with the meal planning so I’ll be back at it, on Sunday.

I came home tonight and was absolutely overjoyed with how clean 🧼 my patio looked. Everything was in its proper place. Nothing was left out. It honestly made a difference in my mood.

Tomorrow is a busy day, first it’s a hair cut, then brunch and lastly a good friend’s birthday bash. Sunday, it’s back to church and meal prepping.

I tried finishing up my patio pillows tonight but my sewing machine 🧵 started acting up so I stopped. Hopefully I can get these pillows done soon.

Significant Other

August 9th, 2019 at 03:25 pm

So the SO called me, I feel bad for him but I’m not giving into that madness. I’m so relieved he’s gone, I can scream.

Well anyway, he and his mother was leaving today at noon to attend a family member’s funeral tomorrow. The trip is three hours. Well he booked a room for the two of them yesterday. Apparently when it came time to leave the mother was no where to be found, she decided to go to the salon. Then she mentioned to him she didn’t want to leave until tomorrow. He’s fuming because the hotel room is non-refundable. So he booked a room for both of them. I told him before he finished, you know what you need to do. Me personally I’d leave her. She’d pay me for the room I booked for her.

Well long story short, I guess he went off on her and called the sister and told her to pick the mother up on her way out tomorrow. I was just shocked he told the mother off and is actually leaving her. I still won’t believe it until I see it, but the best thing both of them need is for him to leave her

I am really starting to believe that something is wrong with the mother.

Update
So they made it, and he’s furious. I think he’s going to snap on her.

Pay Day

August 9th, 2019 at 02:09 am

Pay day was today and this is what happened

* Saved over half of September mortgage payment
* Reduced CC10 by only $15
* Added to my retirement savings
* Added funds to the sinking funds
* Set funds aside for auto pay bills (e.g. water, car insurance, cellphone)
* Paid half of the astronomical cable bill that is due on 8/17 🙄, and
* Paid tithes

Most of this check went towards saving, and I’m happy with that. I’m anticipating a reduction in my electric bill with the SO gone but not so much with the water, since I’ve been pressure cleaning.

I noticed I won’t be saving much with SO gone on the cable as I thought. Why? Well when we split the bill it was $85-89 per month, now with just the internet it is $70. So my savings is really, approximately $200 a year 🤦🏽‍♀️🙄. I’ve got to look for cheaper, internet service.

Lastly I’m going back to meal prepping

Thursday Ramblings

August 8th, 2019 at 09:32 pm

For the last few days I’ve pressure cleaned 🧹 my patio getting it ready for painting. I’m so glad I did this myself, this would have cost me $100 at least to do. It’s a process and I wish I was finished, but when the SO was here, I didn’t want to do a thing and let it go. I know once I’m done I’m going to be happy. Next weekend I’ll paint.

I also did a little research and found that I can change the face of my cabinets, that will be thousands of dollars saved. I’m opening a sinking fund for this project. I only have two sections of the cabinets that would need to be painted. I’m excited because I know soon my home will feel like a home 🏡 .

Though I don’t have the money to change out the floors, I decided to make throw pillows that will match, but two matching lamps, and get an area rug. Oh and paint one wall

The last thing on the list is my bedroom, I definitely need a new set, but no one goes in my room so I’ll make do.

All these projects will take time, one because it’s not a priority, my debt is; two I’ll be cash flowing so I’ll be saving for it, and three no rush.

I texted the SO to see when he planned on picking up the rest of his crap, and didn’t get a response. That’s cool because I’ll pack it up and take it to his Mom’s if he doesn’t come and get it

Update, he called and said he’ll be by to pick up some more things tomorrow. I’m giving him until the end of the month to get all his crap. He also told me he’s getting his friend who is a painter to paint the fence and the patio. Well I’m clear, I have no money to pay anyone that’s why I’m doing it myself and this will not get you back in. So if you get some one to paint, that’s on you.

Happy

August 8th, 2019 at 02:21 am

I’m so loving my time at home by myself. Yesterday I ended up working late but coming home to a nice quiet house with no dishes 🍽 in the sink does something to me.

Not having to get home and cook dinner 🥘 after working all day, was awesome, for dinner it was a sub 🥪 for me.

I feel as though my stress level has decreased. I’ll admit I think about the SO, because I honestly feel bad for him, all I can do is pray for him. If he doesn’t get a handle on his life, finances and future, he’s going to find himself in a jam. He told a friend of mine, my prayer sister, that everything I told him was the truth, that he couldn’t argue with me, because it was nothing but the truth that I told him. He mentioned to her that he has taken on the role of his dad and that he knew he needed to talk to his mom, and have a tough conversation. I honestly don’t believe he will but like I said, he needs to do things for himself and not me. He’s going to find himself a homeless man in his retirement years screwing around with the mom and the kids, put the oxygen on yourself first.

In reference to money, things are trucking along. Ive managed to bump my savings, I still can’t help but be angry with the money I spent for legal fees but hey.

One thing I can say, is God bless sinking funds. I always tried saving everything in one account, but that doesn’t work for me. Saving for what I want has become a natural high for me. Christmas will be here soon and I have funds for Christmas. Lol I don’t have to run around, using credit cards.

The car fund is finally up (knock on wood) where if something happens, and it’s usually $500 I now have the cash to repair vs tapping into the EF. Hopefully, I can get this baby going to where I’m saving for a car vs the EF.

I’m also halfway there with funding my recertification for HR that’s due in January, and even with this, the job may reimburse me. It’s exciting times for me.

Family - my attorney notified me that the bank has been subpoenaed , we should know something that mid August.

I feel like things can only go up, I’m enjoying life right now and I know if it wasn’t for God and his amazing grace, I wouldn’t not be able to get through this mess.

I’m truly happy

Canceled Cable

August 7th, 2019 at 06:01 am

Now that the SO is gone, I wasted no time and canceled the cable 📺 . I’ve already had been billed for August, and according to them, the account had to be closed at end of billing cycle. Honestly I didn’t feel like arguing, I’d been on hold for over a hour so I said okay.

We use to pay about $200 a month, that’s $2400 a year and $1200 a piece a year, ridiculous. Honestly I only watched A&E, MSNBC and once in a while Hallmark, all in all it’s not worth it. He would never cancel, and I always felt forced to pay for something I didn’t want.

I’ll admit I was nervous about canceling but thought, this is ridiculous. Amazon Prime is $120 for a year, and I’m spending $1200. Crazy. I did keep the internet which is also expensive. I’m thinking about getting a MetroPCS phone, with unlimited data, and free WiFi for about $30 a month vs paying the $70 I’m paying now.

I just realized that with Fetch I have $50 in gift cards, I can use this towards my Amazon purchase.

He’s Gone!

August 5th, 2019 at 07:11 pm

So SO, is gone. He still have things here he needs to get but he’s gone.

I was working from home and at about 6:30 I noticed he wasn’t here. I’d decided to get my sewing 🧵 machine out to make some things. Then it was 8 o’clock and I notice he still wasn’t here. I was thinking, is he not coming back? Then he called, saying it feels strange he wasn’t here. Me, I’ll admit was a little nervous but didn’t give in, I’m just glad he’s gone.

Maybe, this will help him to get a handle on his life. 1) take over the business from his mother 2) help the daughter but let her know that it’s her role to assume the responsibility of the grand kid, her kid and 3) focus on himself and where he sees himself in the next few years. I’m wishing him the best, he’s a nice guy, but it’s no longer my problem to worry about what he should be doing.

Updated To Do List

August 4th, 2019 at 06:42 pm

Below were a list of things I needed to do today, I actually added three additional items

Today’s things to do
1. Balance checking/saving accounts🏦 ✅
2. Review last month’s spending ✅
3. Review this month’s spending
4. Update cash 💰 envelopes ✉️ ✅
5. Pressure clean patio ✅
6. Make throw pillows
7. Grocery shop
8. Wash two loads today ✅
9. Wash hair ✅
10. Clean bathroom ✅
11. Set up Ring Doorbell ✅

For the most part I got most things on the list done today. My spending for last month was terrible, my dining out and personal (hair care) was well over. This month, I’m watching this baby, I got lazy and need to get back to my personal finances and accountability .

While I was cleaning 🧹 the patio, SO came out and helped. I was able to replace (he bought the paneling) about 10 panels on the fence. I need to replace another 15, about $1.50 a panel, but it beats replacing the entire fence, plus it’s something I can do myself. The patio is definitely coming along. Next weekend I’ll do one more pressure cleaning before painting the following week. It’s perfect timing because we are going into the fall and I love to be outdoors.

I hope he didn’t think by helping that I’m changing my mind, this is something he should have done a long time ago.

I also bought a Ring video doorbell (with motion), they were $69 vs the normal $100 at Best Buy with a free Google dot. Since the SO is leaving, I wanted a camera for the house. This will come out of the home repair/upgrade funds.

I also sold an item on Poshmark, a dress, I made $7.05, this went to the EF account.

SO packed some things, I understand it’s going to take a few weeks to move everything but I’m not sure why he’s coming back tonight. He’d mention he was taking some things to his mom, and would be back. I didn’t say anything because I want this move to go smoothly but when he gets back, I’ll let him know I’m ready for bed and it’s time for him to go.

Time to Get Moving - To Do List

August 4th, 2019 at 05:33 am

Well I’ve been up for over a hour, and wasted a ton of time scrolling through social media.

Today’s things to do
1. Balance checking/saving accounts🏦
2. Review last month’s spending
3. Review this month’s spending
4. Update cash 💰 envelopes ✉️
5. Pressure clean patio
6. Make throw pillows
7. Grocery shop
8. Wash two loads today

I’ll check back in to see how things went

Praying for Texas

August 3rd, 2019 at 04:23 pm

I’m over these mass killings, praying for peace

Patio Remodel

August 3rd, 2019 at 09:31 am

Well I’m working on my patio. I’m tired of coming home and it looks a mess.

Last week, I weeded up the yard, dump all the junk I had on the patio and bought cushions that was on sale.

Today, I bought outdoor fabric to make throw pillows. I accidentally threw out the throw pillows not thinking I could cover them 🤦🏽‍♀️. Well Walmart had patio pillows for $2, I bought four to cover, so it worked out. The form pillows are about $4 each, so this was a good buy. I also pressured cleaned the patio today. It sucks because I let it go, it’s going to take me about three weekends to ensure it’s clean enough to paint.

I realize with a little patience, I can do a lot of things myself.

I’m Done

August 3rd, 2019 at 03:57 am

Well I did it! I told the SO to get out by the weekend. I realize that nice just don’t cut it. Yes he’s been paying his portion of the bills on time but I told him as soon as he was late that, that would be it. There is also a number of things that happened that I can’t let go.

1. Mother put my engagement ring on before he gave it to me
2. Three things that were of sentimental value to me from my dad, he never took care of and I know longer have
3. I’ve asked him to clean the porch and landscape two feet of yard (he’s a landscaper), well I landscape myself and he and his sister thought it was funny, then he had the nerve to tell me I was doing it wrong
4. Any thing that breaks around here, I’m responsible for repairing/replacing
5. His mother continues not to pay him, he’s raising his grandson. I’ve told him time and time again, you’ve got to put the oxygen mask on yourself first before you can help anyone else
6. Seven years later and he’s still paying child support for kid(s) he has full custody of
7. Twice we did not finish “marriage counseling” he procrastinates so we never did the home work.
8. Wrecked my car and I had to fix it
9. Helps with nothing around the house, I mean absolutely nothing
10. I host an event every year, in that no children are allowed. I told him, his daughter and his mother no babies. Well the mother told him she wasn’t coming if the grand baby couldn’t come. He told my BFF this. Well when I asked him, why was his grandson at the event, he lied to my face. Said his daughter really wanted to come, when it was the mother who said, she wasn’t coming if the baby couldn’t come. Basically I took that as screw you and your wishes, what my momma wants she gets. Remember she tried my ring on, and he was okay with it
11. August he was late with his bill money

That’s it in a nutshell. Though the extra money was helpful, my sanity is more important. Yes he’s a nice guy, would do anything for anyone else, but for some reason where he lays his head is just not that important to him, plus he’s still on the breast milk 🥛 (momma’s boy) and I’m done.

I tell you what, any other guy I date, he better have his own place, paying his own bills. If he wishes to live with me and/or vice verse he should know, I’m not paying crap, all the bills is his. I’m old school, the man, as with my dad, supports the household financially