I have a friend who ask to borrow money, of course I said ok but I hate lending money. Yes I know she will pay me back but it will be a while, I'll be lending her $100. She just got a divorce but she always made the comment that if she wants something she is going to get it. Last year when we were hanging out and she was going through her divorce she spent a ton of money (depressed I guess) but I told her it is not good to have a lot of CC debt...I know from experience. Now when ever I talk to her she is always complaining about how much debt she is in. She did get a part-time job but I know it is the cc's that are driving her nuts
Lending Money
November 20th, 2006 at 01:18 am
November 20th, 2006 at 02:08 am 1163988509
November 20th, 2006 at 02:19 am 1163989194
Also, I would say if she's not a close enough friend that the friendship would be weakened by her not paying back the loan, I would say it's probably not that strong to begin with anyways--next time don't loan.
At some point people have to start taking responsibility for their financial actions. It sounds like you have already begun doing so--there is no reason for you to have to take responsibility for someone else's financial mistakes. There is something to be said about true friendship though...you just have to decide if your friend is one.
November 20th, 2006 at 02:20 am 1163989203
November 20th, 2006 at 05:20 am 1164000018
Maybe she could try match.com or eHarmony.com?
November 20th, 2006 at 01:31 pm 1164029505
February 14th, 2007 at 02:52 am 1171421548
Here in Australia nearly every one of my friends has a huge mortgage. I don't. I own my own house outright. It may not be as salubrious as theirs but it is mine.
I often get asked for loans which are disguised as investments, business ventures etc. I always lose the friendship, perhaps they were never friends.