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My friend bugs me too

December 5th, 2007 at 04:56 am

Sorry for the long post:

Broken Arrow had a post about a friend who bugs him now it is my turn.

I have a friend who bugs the crap out of me, every time I talk to him he is whining about money; but he won't look for a job.

He's hinting to me constantly that he needs money and things are not looking good. Well finally today he says to me if I could let him hold something, that’s right "hold" he didn't ask if he could borrow but hold, which bugged me even more. Then I say to him how much, he says $200. I immediately thought you have got to be kidding me, there is no way in Hell I would lend, well give him $200 especially if there is no reasonable way he will even pay me back since he is not working(hint hint)

A few months ago he gave me $45 and you know what I am going to give him back the same $45, I knew it was a mistake to take money from him as a gif I just knew it

Then when I told him I did not have the $200 he starting laughing as if I owe him something and that I was lying, anyhow he says to me you're the one with all the assets...I thought you SOB (sorry) even if I did, which I don't it is none of his business. So I say to him that is even more reason why I do not have the money because I have too many bills to pay

When I give him back his $45 I will definately loose contact with him.

This is the same sorry guy who ducked and dodged his landlord for almost a month after the guy let him move in with out paying first last or security and then he had the nerve to tell him off. Mind you he is good friends with my ex who is also use less what is that saying ‘birds of a feather flock together” or “two peas in a pod” these two are two of a kind a bunch of losers

Now he is doing little side jobs with him (his landlord) with out pay to cover his rent. And still will not look for a damn job

People just simply amazes me, here it is you work hard to pay down your debt so you can live comfortably, save as much as possible to reach your goals and you are suppose to lend a person who is not working $200, you have got to be kidding me

What bothers me the most is he thinks oh she lives at home, has a new car, nice clothes etc… but damn it, I work hard for the things I have. I drove an old beat up car for 3 years before I got my “used” car. I am sacrificing a lot living at home ( no privacy) and I am working two jobs and going to school, does he not know the term “opportunity cost” you have to give up some things to get something else

Rather than buying $10 bags of marijuana on a daily basis he would have money to pay bills, how about cutting off the cell phone and the cable or even sell some things

I am so sorry for the long post but I just had to let it all out

Posted in Family/Friends | 7 Comments »

7 Responses to “My friend bugs me too”

  1. shiela Says:
    December 5th, 2007 at 07:16 am 1196838962
    1196838962

    He is a loser. You don't need friends like that.

  2. just me Says:
    December 5th, 2007 at 01:33 pm 1196861594
    1196861594

    I have known plenty of people like you described, and they fully expect you to give them money. Just tell him you don't get rich by giving it all away.

  3. Ima saver Says:
    December 5th, 2007 at 01:48 pm 1196862514
    1196862514

    I know what you are talking about. I have a friend who was telling me how tight money was for her. I thought, you,your husband and your teenage daughters all have cell phones. I don't! You both smoke, I don't!! Save the money you are wasting.

  4. Broken Arrow Says:
    December 5th, 2007 at 02:42 pm 1196865749
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    Yes, I find it irritating when people start to look at you like a line of credit (that they don't have to pay back). Fortunately, most of my friends know that I don't mix friendship with finances (or in so many words, if you have to ask, the answer is "NO!") Big Grin

    People who can't make that distinction isn't really your friend in my book.

  5. Mr. Meager Says:
    December 5th, 2007 at 05:29 pm 1196875747
    1196875747

    you were just in your reaction. there are always people like that anyways. on rare occasions, when i help friends out, i take them grocery shopping or the such. the trump card i carry for guilt is that they are pretty well off, because my father was homeless and on the streets, so until they get to that point, their are rich in my book. i did everything i could to help my father but never gave him money directly.

  6. koppur Says:
    December 5th, 2007 at 06:05 pm 1196877948
    1196877948

    Dump the friend. He will never get better. As someone who has been very close to losing evrything, I am proud that I never hit up any of my friends nor my sister for loans. I have one friend who makes good money and has few bills, and sometimes she treats me to lunch or dinner, but when we get together I always go with enough $ to pay my own way, and if she insists on paying, then I let her. Then pay for her dinner the next time I can. She is very generous and I know if I truly needed it she would loan me money (she offered to once) but I just don't want to take advantage of her.

    Anyways, lost the guy. He's a schmuck. Smile

  7. terri77 Says:
    December 12th, 2007 at 03:50 am 1197431407
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    I think I know your friend. Actually, I think I know your friend several times over. These type of people amaze me. I can't abide that sort of laziness. I mean, I'm a little lazy at times as well, but I never expect others to do anything for me - ever.

    I have no respect for men that take money from women. Pathetic.

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