I went to the library today and this guy sat at my table, it may not have bothered me as much but he kept staring at me which gave me the creeps. The funny thing is he sat there the entire time staring at me. So after about 45 minutes I decided to leave and look for the security guard to walk me to my car, but of course she was no where to be found. Any how I made sure my keys were in hand and headed to my car constantly looking in back of me. When I got to my car and pulled out I saw this car flash their lights and a hand stick out I thought you have got to be kidding me this can not be this guy. But it was a woman who sat across from me at a different table and said she followed me out because she did not like the way the guy was staring at me. She said it creeped her out. I thought that was so nice of her. She said she thought at first it was my boyfriend but then she notice we were not talking and he kept staring at me. Wow it is so nice to know that there are people out there who really cares
On a different note today was a NSD so $2 was added to the challenge/house fund
Creepy
February 26th, 2009 at 03:02 am
February 26th, 2009 at 03:13 am 1235618027
Especially since he wouldn't even bother saying anything. I mean, seriously, at least say something if you're going to be "like that".
I have to admit, that's one problem guys don't typically face.
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Next time I would stick around for the Security Guard and wait for an obvious escort out. I totally agree that it was nice that the woman made sure you got out. And have your cell phone in your hand next time, too. Hope today is free of creepies!
February 26th, 2009 at 02:09 pm 1235657393
I think the best thing would be to mention the incident to the Security Guard next time you're in the library - that's what she's paid to deal with. Also, it wasn't "just" you - that other lady was freaked out on your behalf !! As mentioned above... what a nice thoughtful lady !!!
It's nice to be reminded that there a lot of caring people still about.
February 26th, 2009 at 02:27 pm 1235658458
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February 26th, 2009 at 06:11 pm 1235671890
I'm also glad that there was a nice lady aware of what was going on and cared enough to make sure you were okay.
If there's a next time, find that security guard.
February 26th, 2009 at 07:20 pm 1235676043
February 26th, 2009 at 08:08 pm 1235678931
Was this at your college campus library? Many college campuses have escort systems you can call for an escort after dark - check to see if yours does.
I volunteer my time to teach a women's self defense class called Rape Aggression Defense (RAD for short) which is offered at very low or no cost on many college campuses. It is also offered in communities. Go to www.rad-systems.com and click on the program locater to see if there is one in your area. If you don't see one, you might try contacting the state or regional director listed on the site as the program locator tool may not be completely current. RAD is a hands-on self defense class. The difference I see in the women who take my class is incredible in terms of confidence and empowerment.
Finally, I agree with the others that you should report the incident to the library security next time you are there so that they can keep their eyes out.
February 27th, 2009 at 04:47 am 1235710043
Thanks again
February 27th, 2009 at 01:38 pm 1235741913
On the flip side of the coin, I've met a lot of very socially-challenged but well-meaning guys over the internet that have had problems trying to "break the ice" with women.
Granted, it doesn't help that they have a lot of screwwed-up beliefs about women and the "mating dance", but uh.... Deep down, these kind of guys are not dangerous. Just misguided.
One of their "tactics", if you will, is to simply engage in eye contact to project implied interest. They might even smile! And then they're suppose to do this until they get back a return smile of implied interest from you, where they will then move on to the next step and approach you with some kind of pre-defined greetings.
Hahaha. Yeah, corny I know, but that's just what they believe in.... Of course, the plan will fail miserably if all they do is end up sending "the creepy vibes".