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February 22nd, 2013 at 03:45 pm

Okay my BF who is always short on his portion of the bills ( and I have advised I'm moving) says to me the other day that his mom offered to pay his cell phone bill, since he is helping her with his dad's business. Well he told her he didn't need the help. I sort of understand because she is still grieving and he doesn't want to take advantage of her but he is running the business and need the money. I think once he gets situated he could stop taking the funds.

Now fast forward his mom cuts the payroll for the week and added an extra $100 with a note that said thank you. He said he attempted to speak to her and she started to cry so he didn't continue the conversation and kept the money.

Now here is the kicker, he owes as of the first over $1000, $475 of that is the balance forward from last month. But he decides that he is going to bury the $100 on his dad's grave. WTH! Are you serious? I'd rather he give the money back to his mom. I couldn't believe it. It took everything in me to keep my mouth shut. This is ridiculous especially when you're always short. I in so many words reminded him that he had a ton of bills due. This crazy

16 Responses to “Ridiculous ”

  1. creditcardfree Says:

    Interesting...it is hard to understand how that makes any sense. Sorry!

  2. veronak Says:

    Exactly. I called it foolish pride

  3. wowitsawonderfullife Says:

    I think if you move out you should go dig up the money.

  4. PNW Mom Says:

    That was a very silly thing of him to do. I hope you are graduating soon?

  5. veronak Says:

    Lol I thought about going and digging it up. Graduation is August 10th

  6. Thrifty Ray Says:

    Grief is a tough thing to go through but thats no excuse for such a poor financial decision such as that. I dont know how you kept from saying anything. Sorry... Frown

  7. Lynn Says:

    He sounds like a drama queen. And not ver smart. Sorry.

  8. frugaltexan75 Says:

    Wow ... I really don't know what to say to that. Wow.

  9. Petunia 100 Says:

    That's "ridiculous" all right. Smile

  10. Looking Forward Says:

    I agree - WTF!?

  11. CB in the City Says:

    Never heard of that one! I think anyone who does that is never going to acquire financial sense.

  12. snafu Says:

    I'm guessing BF hasn't come to terms with his dad's death. Perhaps if you can get him to talk about his dad and get all those feeling out in the open he may better deal with any guilt or 'wish I had...' People deal with grief in different ways; some are very puzzling. I think you'll need to ask in a straight forward manner for the sum owed for rent etc. It's reality

  13. Petunia 100 Says:

    So, may I ask a personal question? If you're moving out, does that mean you are breaking up with him, or does it mean you no longer wish to live with him? Sorry in advance if too nosey.

  14. veronak Says:

    No problem, it both. I do not think this relationship can grow. I think he means well but unfortunately he has a long way to go

  15. scfr Says:

    This comment is late I know, but it seems that there could be some sort of "middle ground." For example, he could honor his late father by spending $5-10 for something for his father's grave (flowers, a can of beer, whatever) and using $90-95 to pay off the bills.

    Heck, he could even photocopy the $100 (probably illegal I know but who would know?) and write a note to his dad on it and bury that, then use the money to pay off bills.

    Really, wouldn't his late father prefer that he be financially responsible with the $100 rather than just wasting it?

  16. veronak Says:

    Yes Scfr, knowing his dad he is probably turning over in his grave.

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