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I almost crumbled but...

July 15th, 2014 at 06:50 pm

I try my hardest to stay clear of my mother. She always have a way of making me feel like, why was I ever born.

Long story short, last week I stopped by because she wasn't feeling well. I knew I didn't want to be there too long but when I got there she asked me to address some boxes. Honestly I was extremely tired. I just wanted to stop in and go but she had some tasks for me. I addressed the box, did the other task and left. Well today she called yelling and screaming that I wrote the address wrong and that the person who was to receive the items hadn't. I asked if she had double check the boxes, since she was there yelling at the time that I was writing out the address and she tells me no then hangs up. I'm like what the crap.

First of all I got off late, secondly you have a 101 items for me to do when I get there. I'm exhausted plus frustrated. As I'm completing your tasks, you're yelling about something else. And lastly we don't have a good relationship so the only thing on my mind is getting out of there. I'd say I was bound to make a mistake. Ugh. The thing that bothers me most is she only called to tell me what I did wrong and then hangs up.

On a different note I deposited $4 to my $20 challenge because I had breakfast at home and packed my lunch. I also transferred $5 to the EF account because I went to Boston Market and picked up sides for dinner and had a cheese burger after work.

I forgot to add the $2 I saved today for using my coupons, I'll do that tomorrow.

On a different note, here are my three things that I'm thankful for:
• Another day that God has allowed me to see
• being able to push my mother's words and actions about the mailing address off to the side. I almost cried/crumbled but I looked at the positive, she won't ask me to do it again Smile
• getting to bed before 11, whew

7 Responses to “I almost crumbled but...”

  1. Petunia 100 Says:

    Honey, you have to start setting boundaries. She has shown you time and again that she is not mentally healthy and she will walk all over you if you will let her. So, you have a choice to make. Will you allow yourself to be treated this way or not?

    You deserve to be treated with kindness and respect. Don't settle for less.


  2. mamasita Says:

    {{hugs}} and thank goodness you don't live with that full time. Now it is up to you if you want to deal with your mother or not, you get to set some rules.

  3. creditcardfree Says:


    I think IF you go to her place again, you need to immediately leave if she treats you in a negative way. Tell her that you will not tolerate that behavior in a calm tone. Then leave. Keep doing it that way every time.

    OR cut all ties. It IS an option. Really!

    You can also not pick up the phone when she calls, and delete her voice mails before you listen to them. It sounds harsh, but no on should have to be abused in that way.

  4. Miz Pat Says:

    I wish I had the honor of being your Mom - you would get hugs and love if you came to visit me!

  5. Joan.of.the.Arch Says:

    Ah, sweetheart, after you spend a day with Miz Pat as your Mom, come here and I will be your Mom, too. Hugs, recognition, delight, praise, respect, excitement to see you, curiosity about your interests and life, appreciation of your knowledge and opinion, wanting to make you happy, being on the same team, liking your friends...these are some of my Mom ways.

    In your blog it shows that you yourself are a sweet, kind, striving person. Why someone would feel the need to stomp all over that essential goodness, I just don't know. Please give yourself a bigger break from that hateful treatment because we need good people like you to be able to rise to their very best selves.

  6. creditcardfree Says:

    Awww...Joan and Miz Pat are the sweetest!

  7. veronak Says:

    Aw thanks everyone. I actually teared up reading your posts, it really means a lot.
    I've been staying away from my mom (literally), and will continue to do so. She needs some counseling and I can't help her

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