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I'm on a budget and sticking to it

November 5th, 2017 at 04:59 pm

Went to Target to pick up a few items (Coke, bacon, orange juice, and grapes).

The grapes I usually eat as a snack vs chips but they weren't on sale, so I left them. The bacon I have a slice for breakfast and there was a 5% off. I also have orange juice on the weekends with breakfast, this tend to last a while but I could not find the Target brand in our store that had the 5%. The fiancΓ© insisted that we go ahead and pick up, I hate shopping with him. And the Coke, I pack for lunch. I have one can a day, this is down from about 2-3. I really need to work on this, by drinking more water.

So we make it to the check out and I start to separate my items from the fiancΓ©'s and he becomes annoyed and decided to pay for everything. I say to him, I'm okay with that and I'm on a strict budget. Once we get into the car I say to him that he really needs to get onboard with me or things aren't going to work. I made a list and let's stick to it. He always heads in the store and picks up items that A) we don't need and b) unhealthy and expensive. I realize that I may be the issue as well. I try my best not to mention budget but when I go into the store, I'm paying with what's been budgeted and applied to my envelopes, I don't need him picking up $24 bags of candy, $4 cookies etc.

As with DW and Monkey Momma today's dinner is based on what we already have in the pantry. I'm using what we have first. I'm so excited about the journey that I'm on and it's draining when you love someone who you know have the potential to be great, and not struggle and opts not to even try.

5 Responses to “I'm on a budget and sticking to it”

  1. LuckyRobin Says:
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    I hope he gets on board with you soon, or you're right. It won't work. The budget, and eventually, the relationship, too. If you really do want to continue to be with this man, you have to be on the same page financially, spiritually, with regards to marriage, kids, retirement savings, staying out of debt once you get there, not being wasteful with money, etc. If it were me, I'd have some really hard thinking to do.

  2. Amber Says:
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    LR, I am planning on having one more conversation

  3. rob62521 Says:
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    I hope the conversation is successful. Maybe lay out some goals to save for and show ways to save that money to achieve those goals.

  4. ceejay74 Says:
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    That must be so frustrating. I guess if you really love him and he won't try to change, one solution would be to stay together but keep finances separate and not get married.

    Good luck with the conversation! I don't see eye to eye on every financial topic with my partners but at least they agree with the overall strategy and trust me with most of the details. They know anything they buy that isn't on the budget gets taken from their personal spending line item if there's no extra money, and if they go over their spending limit, there's a deficit until they make it up by not spending. That's the big thing. Everything else I can handle and they by and large let me do it.

  5. creditcardfree Says:
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    Remember that you cannot expect him to be a mind reader about your budget. It is clearly not on the front of his mind, so a reminder as you go in, would be helpful to him I expect. "I'm only buying what is on my list. If you want anything else you can pay for that yourself. "

    I'm excited for you to be on the journey as well.

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