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New Job and House Issues

May 17th, 2018 at 03:47 am

I gave my resignation and received a call to not come back. It was hurtful but I'm so thankful that I have another job already lined up. I'll be starting that job next Wednesday as the HR manager. The place that I worked is/was very toxic. I've been considering call the Department of Labor on them, FLSA, ACA, FMLA, Title I and VII violations, you name it they do it. But I always say, you reap what you so.

I'm so thankful that God revealed to me, to get the hell out of there.

In financial news, I somewhat blew my budget, well let's face it, I blew it. Over the last few pay periods I didn't stick to it so I decided to get back on track. June is right around the corner and I haven't put a dent in CC5. Hopefully I can knock at least $300 off by the end of June.

With the new job, I was able to get my salary bumped by three grand but this simply covers my medical deductions, so I'll still be making what I made at the old company essentially. Since I'll be coming in as HR manager, one of my goals is to provide better benefits.

One thing I've been telling the SO is that I never want to be in a position where I can't quit my job or help a friend. God has truly placed it on my heart to save and knock these bills out. Yes I've fell off the wagon but thank God I've been steady. I continue to add funds to my EF. I know Dave says no, but for me to be comfortable I must. I've budgeted $50 a pay check, next month I should be at $1300 and it's a great feeling. Goal is to have at least $8K saved.

SO has really stepped up. I don't know if it's because I stop nagging or what, but he's saving and paying the bills on time. Interesting, I did tell him that I was not trying to blow his momentum but that I'm still thinking we need to part ways, he's gone too long without trying. His response was he was tired of disappointing me. My thing is, it took me some time to wake up. We'll see.

In house news, my brother and his family went to my attorney's office raising hell, all last week (multiple time). I've told my attorney to call the police on them. Apparently they're trying to force my attorney into a contract, I call it extortion. Then my brother's girl friend goes on my Facebook page and post a mean GIF, I screen shot it of course. Minutes later she takes it down. What is wrong with people?
I told my mother, who I thought would be able to get him under control, needless to say that didn't work. Smh
I can't wait for this mess to be over. I'm terrified of guns but I took the class to carry a concealed weapon, I have no clue what he's capable of and my other brother keeps telling me to get one to protect myself. Jesus who would have thought

9 Responses to “New Job and House Issues”

  1. creditcardfree Says:

    I'm not a gun owner either, however, a gun in the hand can stop a crime faster than police can be called or arrive. Training is so important. Make sure you know how to use it for self defense. Police arrive AFTER most events. They cannot protect us in the moment a crime takes place.

    Please please call the police about your brother's actions. It needs to be reported for a paper trail, even if no crime has yet been committed. I also think once you have a bit of distance (possibly several months) it would be wise to report your previous job, preferably anonymously.

    Is your brother getting any portion of the proceeds? If not, do you think offering $X to your brother for moving expenses or first months rent would be helpful? He is clearly fearing the change and doing nearly anything to make sure that change doesn't happen. Can you do anything to soften the blow? I'm assuming money is an issue, I think you said he lived rent free at your Dad's house.


  2. Amber Says:

    Hi CCF,

    I've reported my brother, when he talked about catching me on fire, not sure if my attorney did. My attorney said he wasn't threatening, so I don't think he did. He did notify his attorney though. My brother will also get half the proceeds from the sale of the house.

    I plan on taking a training course one to one for a class on the gun. The class I was in was a group and I don't think it's the same.

    And yes I agree with you, I'm thinking of reporting anonymously within 2-3 months.

  3. AnotherReader Says:

    Since you are no longer at the old job, have you told anyone the location of the new job? When do you start there? Keeping the location of the job secret might give your angry brother fewer opportunities to confront you. As you approach the close of escrow, if he escalates, I would find a place to stay somewhere else. Once escrow closes and he is out, there is not a lot he can do to keep the house.

    A gun is not the solution in this situation. You don't have the training and if he surprises you outside the office or the grocery store, you won't have time to use it. Better to go visit someone out of town until the new job starts and then stay near the job until escrow closes.

  4. Amber Says:

    Nope haven't told a soul where I'll be working. I'm playing on getting training before I purchase

  5. CB in the City Says:

    I'm a bit afraid of the gun thing. I fear that guns are more dangerous to the owner than they are to the perpetrator. Please be very careful. And I am so sorry that you are having to go through this.

  6. rob62521 Says:

    Gun training is good because then you will feel comfortable with handling it. It is far scarier for someone to own a gun and not know how to use it, than to have someone with a gun who understands the responsibilities.

    Good plan on not letting anyone know where you work so your brother can't find out.

    Glad you left your toxic environment.

  7. creditcardfree Says:

    A gun owned by someone not trained is definitely scary. Most legal gun owners understand this and take training seriously. I had a cousin die at age 17 when someone was messing around with a loaded gun and accidentally shot him. Keeping weapons locked and away from those who are not trained is very important, too.

  8. Amber Says:

    I definitely won't purchase until I'm trained and comfortable

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