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One Big Mess

August 11th, 2018 at 08:15 am

I have to keep reminding myself that this mess I’m in is only temporary.

First in financial news. My goal is to have CC6 paid off by the end of October. My 90 days on the new job is up this month and we are to revisit my salary. I’ll be asking for a raise. Since I’ve been there I have done the following:
* Save the company close to 50k
* Updated and rewrote outdated policies, about 12
* Update a number of HR forms
* Started the online implementation of our HRIS
* Put processes in place to streamline our onboarding process,and
* Revamped the new hire orientation
Not to mention all the other miscellaneous stuff.

Regarding spending, I’ve been off the grid. Eating out a lot more and spending more. Yesterday was the first check of the month, so I plan on getting back on track.

We finally got a date for next month regarding the sale of the house, I pray all goes well.

Now relationship news. As you all know, I’m sick of my SO. Every day there’s some BS with him. Well this week the child support office hit his account and his daughter’s because he was late paying.

Long story short last month, or month before, I can’t remember, he mailed off his money order payment. Well they didn’t get it. He was told the following month to wait and see if the money order clears, by the child support office. I said pay it,because it’s late and it makes no sense what you were told. Well he didn’t listen to me, and they took all his money and the money he in his daughter’s (16 yo) bank account.

Now he’s running around here mad because they touch his “baby’s” account.
I’m more like WTF!
1. All your portion of the bills are late, you take your time paying them but when it comes to your daughter’s money you make sure you’re doing what needs to be done to correct. Meanwhile my &);::/- is late!
2. If you had been saving, when the money order wasn’t received you could have paid the damn bill
3. Take the business over from your mom, she’s mismanaging and aren’t you sick and tired of not wanting to hurt her feelings 🙄 dude she’s not paying you. What’s the purpose of working and not getting paid?

Only good thing about this is, that I told him there is no way in hell I can or would marry him. He’d have us in the poor house.
Not to mention, he can’t even buy a diamond for the ring that’s now starting to change colors, lol just pathetic. All I can do is laugh to keep from crying, thinking about how much time, and energy I’ve wasted with this guy. Two years later and I still have a joke of a ring smh, unbelievable.

Don’t get me wrong, it’s not about the ring, I’m just making a point. I’d be happy with a $20 gold band, vs a $1200 band with a fake diamond that is changing colors, if he had his crap together.

Only thing keeps me trucking is I know this is temporary, debt is slowly declining, and this house will be sold then I can pay off my debt and get my own place.

Posted in Family/Friends, Goals | 9 Comments »

9 Responses to “One Big Mess”

  1. Jenn Says:
    August 11th, 2018 at 12:47 pm 1533991649
    1533991649

    I think you're right to stay focused on your future. Like your SO with #2 in your list, if you weren't mired in debt, you wouldn't need to wait for the sale of the house to have options. The difference is that you see it.

    It'll be fun to watch CC6 go down!

  2. Wink Says:
    August 11th, 2018 at 12:48 pm 1533991710
    1533991710

    That's a lot of accomplishments at your new job! I hope you get the raise.

  3. scfr Says:
    August 11th, 2018 at 01:57 pm 1533995832
    1533995832

    Your accomplishments for your new company are pretty terrific. I hope you get the raise.
    Keep on keeping your head up.

  4. debtfreeme Says:
    August 11th, 2018 at 08:01 pm 1534017660
    1534017660

    WOW a great list for getting the raise. Fingers Crossed.

  5. melissalt Says:
    August 12th, 2018 at 01:08 pm 1534079303
    1534079303

    Things sound bright for you on the job/financial front, which is great. As for the SO, he sounds like my ex-husband, who still can't get his act together (he actually 'borrowed' $30 a month ago from our 18 yo who can't afford to lose the $$ as he's starting school next week). Regarding the rings, I hear you. I now have a $32 stainless steel wedding band, which is more precious than any, any diamond would ever be to me. Not about the rings. :-)

  6. snafu Says:
    August 12th, 2018 at 05:00 pm 1534093216
    1534093216

    Amber, I don't know what kind of game your brother and your lawyer have been playing but your brother has been living rent free in your late dad's home since September 2016 when you mentioned the initial plan to sell the house. In a few weeks that is 24 months of ripping off Amber. I don't know the going rental rate for the area but you need to take action to recover the sums due as your dad intended. Have you looked at the municipal tax bill? How much is owed for electric, water, heat, sewerage etc?

    This situation does not pass the smell test.

  7. rob62521 Says:
    August 12th, 2018 at 06:50 pm 1534099858
    1534099858

    Amber, you are right. Keep focusing on the big, bright picture. You are doing well with your own finances. As for SO, well, he's bad news. And yeah, you invested time with him, but sometimes you cut your losses and move on and that is what you plan to do. Don't let him suck you in and keep you there. Hopefully the home sale goes through and you can move on.

  8. Turtle Lover Says:
    September 21st, 2018 at 12:08 pm 1537531726
    1537531726

    Hello Amber - haven't heard from you in a while. Hope all is well.

  9. AnotherReader Says:
    September 23rd, 2018 at 01:17 am 1537665435
    1537665435

    Yes, haven't heard anything since this post. Did you get the house sold? Waiting to hear about the fresh start the sale is going to give you.

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