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I Did It!

November 18th, 2018 at 12:18 pm

I did it, I told my SO to move by December 31st. He didn’t say a word, other than “what?” So I told him I want him out by December 31st again.

I don’t know, but I have a knot in my stomach from it. I feel bad but I know it’s for the best. He can not afford to live with me, he has way too much baggage he just refuse take care of.

Now the countdown begins.

I’m going to start looking for a part-time gig

8 Responses to “I Did It! ”

  1. AnotherReader Says:

    Good for you!

    The next six weeks are going to be really hard. It came as a surprise to him because he has always gotten his way before. He probably thinks this is an empty threat and he can sweet talk you out of your decision. He may try to "change" short term because he knows he is losing his meal ticket. Don't let any of this change fool you. You are doing what is best for you. If he learns from this, you have done him a real favor as well.

    Start separating your stuff from his. Tell him you will help him pack up his things to make it easier for him to move. Don't accept any money from him for any bill that covers anything past December 31, if he offers it. You want zero entanglements with him after December 31.

    Most of all, be firm!

  2. Amber Says:

    Thanks AnotherReader. I actually applied for two part time receptionist positions this morning, and I’ll be dropping off my application to Aldi at their hiring event.

    I’m nervous but I think if I get the job before the official move it will make things easier. I’ve decided to start bringing home boxes from work for him

  3. DW Says:

    Be sure to budget money for a lock change on or before the morning of December 31st.

  4. james.hendrickson Says:

    Woah - sounds like things are a bit of a low point for you. I hope you're able to get the friends and family support you'll need.

  5. MonkeyMama Says:

    Stay strong Amber!

  6. creditcardfree Says:

    I hope the next weeks go smoothly. It would be wonderful if he would move on sooner now that he knows you want him out.

  7. crazyliblady Says:

    You are so brave, Amber, but it seems like he did not see this coming. I am wondering if it would be best if you were not at home when he packs up to move. Maybe it would make for less drama for you both.

  8. rob62521 Says:

    Way to go Amber. Now, stick to this. I would imagine SO will try to weasel more time or a second chance. As for feeling bad, you made a major decision and I'm sure his reaction didn't help you.

    Good idea from DW to budget money for a lock change.

    I'd also stop by the post office for chance of address info for SO and have that with the boxes. Otherwise, he will find ways to stop by to pick up his mail and try to get you to change your mind even if you get his sorry butt out of there.

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