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December 1st, 2018 at 04:45 am

Hi all 👋🏾
I’ve opened up the home repair savings account, I figured better late than never.
My goal is to save for things such as a washer, stove, roof etc. Though things are okay now, I know that when you become a home owner, Murphy visits.

Yesterday was payday so I went ahead and socked away what I would normally pay for rent. I had the SO give me his share for December as well, so I put that in the bank. I also socked away funds for the HOA. I really want to be ahead of the game.

Thursday I’ll be applying for the cashier’s job. I honestly prefer this one only because it’s right up the street and I only want 12 hours a week.

I notice that the SO was looking pretty down. Prior to him looking sad, I had honestly started feeling bad that I had asked him to move. When I asked him what was wrong, he informed me my that his mom had not paid him in weeks. All I could do was say to myself, thank you Jesus for reminding me has to go.

I have no idea why he refuses to take this business over from this woman, why he continues to go to work week after week and not to get paid? Here it is you’re trying to have a relationship with someone, build a future and you’re allowing your mother at 46 ruin your life. I can’t imagine another woman dealing with that BS as long as I have. You can’t pay your bills and you’re okay with that because Mom can’t be upset. Well you can Mom have a great life and be gone out of my place by December 31st. Ridiculous

6 Responses to “Updates”

  1. AnotherReader Says:

    SO could not run the business if he did take it over, so no loss there. His behavior reinforces your decision to move on. It's better for both of you.

  2. DW Says:

    OMG, focus on the new you and stop asking him about why he’s down. He’s trying to stay in your home. If momma hasn’t paid him for weeks, where did he get the money for his share of the rent? If momma really hasn’t paid him, it could be because she knows you sold your dad’s house so she figures you will take care of him. When he moves out, he’ll be back with momma. And they will live broke ever after.

  3. veronak Says:

    You guys are right. I have this tendency to feel bad for people and asked what’s wrong. Apparently he’s been trying to sock away, not my problem

  4. DW Says:

    Amber, it’s evident you care deeply for him and that’s ok. But it’s up to him to fix him. He needs to want better for himself and he needs to do it independently from you and momma Smile

  5. creditcardfree Says:

    Stay strong! You will not regret letting your SO go and figure things out on his own. If the relationship is meant to be long term, he will make the necessary changes. Good idea to have funds for home repairs!!

  6. rob62521 Says:

    It sounds like SO is trying to play on your sympathy. Don't cave in. You need to take care of Amber, not him. As for his letting his mom run his life, that is his choice. If you stay with him, it will in effect let her run your life too.

    Good job on opening the home account. You won't be sorry when, as you say, Murphy visits!

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