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Kitchen Cabinets + Depression = No Clue

August 10th, 2022 at 03:36 am

Looks like I’m just going to go with Home Depot on the cabinets. People are t showing nor are they responding. I’m not sure what is going on but this is really frustrating. 

 

I applied for one of their credit cards, it’s interest free for six months. So I’ll buy the cabinets and pay cash to have installed. 

 

I started the new job today. It was great but I’m depressed. I realize I don’t want to work and I’m in no shape or form to even consider this option. I can just beat myself up with all the financial mistakes I’ve made. I hate it! 

 

I hope I get out of this depression mode real soon, I have no clue what I need to do at this moment. I haven't been depressed in a long time. Thankfully I'm not having suicidal thoughts, so I guess that's a good thing 

10 Responses to “Kitchen Cabinets + Depression = No Clue”

  1. Carol B. Says:
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    Yikes! Happy you like job; very sorry to hear about depression! Not sure whether to offer only sympathy ( which I do) or suggestions? Physical checkup? Exercise? Gratitude journal? Are you eating enough vegetables and fruits? Getting enough sleep?
    Wishing only the best for you!

  2. Wink Says:
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    I'm so sorry you are struggling right now Amber. Carol B. makes some really good suggestions. Please try and be gentle with yourself, we can really be our own harshest critics at times. Take care!

  3. Turtle Lover Says:
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    ((hugs)) I'll keep you in my prayers!

  4. CB in the City Says:
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    One thing that helped me when I was a single mom -- if you can't love what you do (i.e. working) love why you're doing it -- you are working to get yourself out of debt and in a better place financially. It's a really good reason to work! If you can embrace that, then maybe your depression will lift. I do commiserate -- depression is very hard to deal with, but remember that it doesn't last and there are better days ahead.

  5. Lots of ideas Says:
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    Amber, starting a new job is incredibly stressful.
    The times we are living through are incredibly stressful.
    Even had you made every money decision perfectly, you would probably still have to work…you are young. Plenty of good lies ahead!

    However, depression is real. Perhaps a visit to your physician is in order. Even if you think you don’t need that, maybe make an appointment because my experience lately is that lead time for non emergency medical appointments is long - I’m waiting 3-6 months! to see specialists. If you feel better, you can always cancel.

    Also, vow to not let depression put you off track. Spending money, as you know is a trap of an empty promise.

    Think about your five year plan.
    Work out your loan payoffs, your savings goals, the trips you want to take, the home improvements you want to make, the charities you want to support.

    I always suggest to people starting a new job to go to their calendar three months out and write a note β€˜today, this is MY job.’
    If when you get there, it doesn’t feel true, make a change. It usually is true though - you make friends, have successes, have respect. It just takes time.

    You have done an amazing job with your life. I know someone telling you that doesn’t cut through the fog, but stay close to your community here and lean on us for a little while.

    Remember too that you deserve to be happy, and evertything you have been working towards is coming towards you now.

    Be good to you.

  6. DW Says:
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    Amber,
    I think the shock to your system of physically going into a workplace after 2+ years was rough. I think you misinterpreted it as a failure on your part so you started blaming yourself. You’re not failing. Come up with an aggressive plan to pay off the remaining student loan balances and free yourself.
    As for the kitchen cabinets, there’s a worker shortage worldwide. It’s not you or your area. You may have to network to find someone to install those cabinets.

    Keep your head up and keep going.

  7. LuckyRobin Says:
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    Get a doctor's appointment and talk to him or her about how you are feeling depressed. You may need some therapy and you may need an anti-depressant. Therapy may help you determine whether your depression is transitory or if you will be in it for a while Don't let it go. There is no reason to suffer when there are real steps you can take. Anti-depressants are not forever for most people. They are a stopgap until you start feeling like life is easier to handle again. Not everyone who gets depressed is suicidal, but that doesn't mean they would jump out of the way of a bus, either. If you are feeling like you wouldn't kill yourself, but really don't want to be alive anymore, either, get help immediately. One leads to the other in rapid succession sometimes.

  8. crazyliblady Says:
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    Give yourself some time to adjust to the new job, as there are probably new things to learn, new expectations, etc. And we've all made financial mistakes, so don't beat yourself up. You have come along way.

    As for the cabinets, it sounds great. When we ordered windows through Home Depot, we were given the option to go with a company that Home Depot contracts with for measuring and installation.

  9. AnotherReader Says:
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    You have made a few references to the SO. It sounds like he is back in your life. If so, is that really a good addition for you? Is it possible he is contributing to the depression?

  10. rob62521 Says:
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    Starting a new job is stressful and a huge change after not being tied down to an office for so long. I hope things improve for you. Be sure and take good care of yourself both physically, mentally, and socially. If need be, see the appropriate medical person to help you with this. You've come so very far and beating yourself up over past mistakes isn't healthy. You have accomplished so much. Just keep the view of why you are doing what you are doing!

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