• Date Started: Feb 13, 2006
• Entries: 2,589
• Comments: 7,671
• Total Visits: 8,688,978

Kitchen Cabinets + Depression = No Clue

9 Responses to “Kitchen Cabinets + Depression = No Clue”

1. Carol B. Says:
   August 10th, 2022 at 11:52 am 1660128745
   1660128745
   Yikes! Happy you like job; very sorry to hear about depression! Not sure whether to offer only sympathy ( which I do) or suggestions? Physical checkup? Exercise? Gratitude journal? Are you eating enough vegetables and fruits? Getting enough sleep?
   Wishing only the best for you!

2. Wink Says:
   August 10th, 2022 at 12:22 pm 1660130543
   1660130543
   I'm so sorry you are struggling right now Amber. Carol B. makes some really good suggestions. Please try and be gentle with yourself, we can really be our own harshest critics at times. Take care!

3. Turtle Lover Says:
   August 10th, 2022 at 01:40 pm 1660135203
   1660135203
   ((hugs)) I'll keep you in my prayers!

4. CB in the City Says:
   August 10th, 2022 at 03:13 pm 1660140789
   1660140789
   One thing that helped me when I was a single mom -- if you can't love what you do (i.e. working) love why you're doing it -- you are working to get yourself out of debt and in a better place financially. It's a really good reason to work! If you can embrace that, then maybe your depression will lift. I do commiserate -- depression is very hard to deal with, but remember that it doesn't last and there are better days ahead.

5. Lots of ideas Says:
   August 10th, 2022 at 04:40 pm 1660146036
   1660146036
   Amber, starting a new job is incredibly stressful.
   The times we are living through are incredibly stressful.
   Even had you made every money decision perfectly, you would probably still have to work…you are young. Plenty of good lies ahead!
   
   However, depression is real. Perhaps a visit to your physician is in order. Even if you think you don’t need that, maybe make an appointment because my experience lately is that lead time for non emergency medical appointments is long - I’m waiting 3-6 months! to see specialists. If you feel better, you can always cancel.
   
   Also, vow to not let depression put you off track. Spending money, as you know is a trap of an empty promise.
   
   Think about your five year plan.
   Work out your loan payoffs, your savings goals, the trips you want to take, the home improvements you want to make, the charities you want to support.
   
   I always suggest to people starting a new job to go to their calendar three months out and write a note ‘today, this is MY job.’
   If when you get there, it doesn’t feel true, make a change. It usually is true though - you make friends, have successes, have respect. It just takes time.
   
   You have done an amazing job with your life. I know someone telling you that doesn’t cut through the fog, but stay close to your community here and lean on us for a little while.
   
   Remember too that you deserve to be happy, and evertything you have been working towards is coming towards you now.
   
   Be good to you.
   

6. LuckyRobin Says:
   August 11th, 2022 at 08:52 am 1660204338
   1660204338
   Get a doctor's appointment and talk to him or her about how you are feeling depressed. You may need some therapy and you may need an anti-depressant. Therapy may help you determine whether your depression is transitory or if you will be in it for a while Don't let it go. There is no reason to suffer when there are real steps you can take. Anti-depressants are not forever for most people. They are a stopgap until you start feeling like life is easier to handle again. Not everyone who gets depressed is suicidal, but that doesn't mean they would jump out of the way of a bus, either. If you are feeling like you wouldn't kill yourself, but really don't want to be alive anymore, either, get help immediately. One leads to the other in rapid succession sometimes.

7. crazyliblady Says:
   August 11th, 2022 at 07:42 pm 1660243374
   1660243374
   Give yourself some time to adjust to the new job, as there are probably new things to learn, new expectations, etc. And we've all made financial mistakes, so don't beat yourself up. You have come along way.
   
   As for the cabinets, it sounds great. When we ordered windows through Home Depot, we were given the option to go with a company that Home Depot contracts with for measuring and installation.

8. AnotherReader Says:
   August 12th, 2022 at 02:31 am 1660267882
   1660267882
   You have made a few references to the SO. It sounds like he is back in your life. If so, is that really a good addition for you? Is it possible he is contributing to the depression?

9. rob62521 Says:
   August 14th, 2022 at 07:39 pm 1660502384
   1660502384
   Starting a new job is stressful and a huge change after not being tied down to an office for so long. I hope things improve for you. Be sure and take good care of yourself both physically, mentally, and socially. If need be, see the appropriate medical person to help you with this. You've come so very far and beating yourself up over past mistakes isn't healthy. You have accomplished so much. Just keep the view of why you are doing what you are doing!

Leave a Reply