I’m going to visit a friend who has cancer, as I mentioned before, fear often holds us back. It’s a two-hour drive and I’m fearful to take the ride alone so my ex is going. I’ve got to jump out on faith and just do things.
I rented a room for one night, which cost $82. I could have stayed with my friend but she has cats and I can’t stand them.
I was lucky to get a room at a reduced rate using a few points. Well my ex wanted to go early, and leave yesterday, I told him if he wanted to go early, he need to foot the bill for the room, which was 100+ dollars and I needed the money upfront if I was booking.
Well as you can see we aren’t going early. One he doesn’t have the money, and two, I’m no longer footing the bill for anything he suggests or wants, nor am I waiting for him to reimburse me as he always says. I was always booking the trip and he’ll give me the money back supposedly but it’s either I never see the money or he’s short when he pays me.
I foot the bill for a trip to NY a while back that he was supposed to pay me back which I never got. This is not happening to me again. Nope.
August 5th, 2023 at 06:31 pm 1691260273
Are you afraid of driving for 2 hours or just of something happening along the way that you think you can’t deal with?
If it is the first, I suggest that you ‘test’ yourself by driving all the way there and back while he is a passenger. Look along the way for places that seem ‘safe’ if you had to stop if there were a problem.
Do you have AAA? Their roadside assistance is quite reliable. I have never personally used it but one of my siblings has some odd quirks that mean he frequently runs out of gas. Our sister gifts him a membership each year so he doesn’t have to rely on her, and they arrive promptly. The cost is not that high - the lowers cost $6 per month is sufficient.
Travel on well traveled roads during daylight hours. Of course, there are other factors that can make something unsafe, so if they are in play, then yes take someone along.
My observation is that when ex is in your life, he steals your peace of mind. The cost of that is priceless. But again, you know your situation.