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Having the discussion

December 28th, 2012 at 08:10 am

Well I plan on having a heart to heart with the BF. He has to do better financially. He spends money foolishly and now he is short $400 for this month's up coming bills.

The day after Christmas he took his entire family to breakfasts and spent $200 because that's what his dad use to do and he feels responsible to take care of the family. That's fine so long as you can afford it but you can't. I know he is grieving but he has to think rationally.

Next he finds out his 16 year old daughter is pregnant and I have made it clear she cannot live with us. Now if he wants to move out and help raise his grandchild that is fine with me because I'm not going to foot that bill.

6 Responses to “Having the discussion”

  1. creditcardfree Says:

    Adoption is always an option for the 16 year old to consider. And you are right not to take that responsibility on. Best wishes for good communication in the coming days.

  2. Jenn Says:

    Amber, I hope you're finally strong enough to follow the discussion up with action. Go back and read your posts as though you're reading about someone else. This guy has been taking advantage of you for some time. And you can't change him. (I learned that lesson personally - I can only change ME.)

  3. North Georgia Gal Says:

    I agree with Jenn...this guy has definately not improved on paying his share of expenses...I just read back through some of your posts. He is definately taking advantage of you. I would definately not let the daughter move in with you as you will then be supporting 3 people.

  4. veronak Says:

    Thanks everyone, and. Jenn you are absolutely correct. It's time to put my foot down.

  5. LuckyRobin Says:

    Well, you know my opinion on this already. I hope you manage to do it, because it needs to be done.

  6. scfr Says:

    Hi Amber - I don't know all of the history since I've been away for awhile, but this doesn't sound good. If he's short, does that mean you have to make up for the shortfall? I believe in a good relationship both parties have each others' back at all times. If he were short because of something like a medical emergency, that would be one thing (and I know you'd have his back) but to be short because of a meal out and then let his girlfriend cover the bills? Not cool.

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