SO called this morning in tears. He said that his life is in shambles. He told me he sits and looks in the space that he’s living in and it looks a mess, because he doesn’t have a drawer to put his clothes in. He also said, he understands why, I wouldn’t want to be with him, and that if he was a woman, he wouldn’t want to be with him either.
He went on to say, he has nothing. He’s lost a ton of weight, over 15lbs, was extremely sick a few weeks ago and is to have out patient surgery but he doesn’t have the money (no insurance) to have the surgery. The mother is still not paying him, and the side jobs he gets, he’s barely making it.
The daughter with the baby needs counseling, I’ve told him over and over to get it for her, she’s extremely promiscuous, get her tested for STDs, and put on birth control. I’m not sure if he doesn’t want to face the truth, doesn’t have the money, or both.
It’s sad, though he’s super nice, but he’s ignorant when it comes to the mother and the daughter. I just simply listened. Once he was done, I told him, once you get angry, you’ll know what needs to be done and do it.
I’ve dated momma’s boys but this is absolutely crazy, he’s so afraid of upsetting her and the, that he can’t see he’s becoming unhealthy, mentally, physically and emotionally because of it.
He did thank me for being a friend.
SO Update
November 23rd, 2019 at 12:45 pm
November 23rd, 2019 at 12:50 pm 1574513406
I am sorry to hear that he is struggling. I will say a prayer that he sees the light and that he is able to get thru this.
November 23rd, 2019 at 01:37 pm 1574516227
November 23rd, 2019 at 02:02 pm 1574517771
November 23rd, 2019 at 02:17 pm 1574518658
@CCF, I’ve told him to sign up through the ACA portal, I honestly don’t know why he hasn’t. I’ll offer to assist him with completing the application. I personally think his biggest issue is fear, fear of change, fear of upsetting others
November 23rd, 2019 at 11:25 pm 1574551511