Amber's Personal Finance Blog

Adulting is a termed used by those who are being responsible, I guess I finally made it lol.

Today I printed out a W4 at work and actually read through and made my adjustments. Rolls eyes 🙄

When I first started working, 30+ years ago I was told by an adult to always place zero on the document so that my tax refund would be nice. And so for years I did. Then I changed my withholding to two. But I sat down out of the blue and decided to read and follow the instructions for myself on the form and my actual withholdings should be three.

I'm so frustrated, not with anyone in particular but the fact that I was never taught about finances, not by parents, educators or mentors. I mean indirectly my parents always said to save and pay your bills, and I pay who I owe on time, but never taught about money.

I sit back and I reflect on the following
* taught myself how to balance a checkbook after always bouncing checks (early 20s)
* Mid 40s finally decided to review my allowances
* Paid off debt due to being frustrated but five years later back in debt, what did I learn?
On thing I was taught, and that was to do my own taxes. I've never paid anyone to do my taxes since I was 16. My economics teacher taught us how to complete a 1040EZ. I would go to the library pick up the documents and instructions for free. Now I use turbotax to complete my returns but I'm thinking of going back to good old pen and paper, it's free.
It's just amazing.

To change the subject we met up with some friends yesterday. They asked how the wedding planning was going, I said it's not going because the SO refuse to get on a budget and do right financially, and that he waste money. The SO said that I'm getting to be too cheap. They laughed but I didn't find anything funny.

So this couple goes on to tell us how they decided to put a $1000 away a month, I thought that's great, I'd love to do that. But then they go on to tell us that they purchased this new truck, Volvo, with all the bells and whistle and paid an extra $15k because they wanted the 2018 vs the 2017. Now mind you this truck starts at about $46k, I couldn't help but think I would love a new car but I don't know about spending that kind of money. They went on to tell us that they bought a condo, that's not rented in Vegas and it's only about $700 a month. I don't know a part of me was happy for them, jealous and then sad all at the same time. I couldn't help but wonder how much debt they must be in.

Well, my word for this year is gratitude. I have to remind myself that things (debt) do not make me happy. And though things may look great for others, and they may very well be, it's just not my season.

Things I'm grateful for, not in order of preference :
1. A roof over my head
2. Paid off car 🚗
3. Paid off 3 CC 💳
4. This group
5. Time spent with dad
6. Eyes finally open about my finances
7. Clothes
8. My job
9. My health
10. Family and friends
11. God's grace and patience with me
12. No more depression, thoughts of suicide- haven't had this in a while, thank you Jesus
13. No more getting upset when things don't go my way. I'm not saying I'm not disappointed but I just don't dwell on it

Yesterday I applied for a pre-approval for a mortgage and was denied. Though my score was high I had too much debt vs my income. I was down but not to the point in that I was worried or very upset. I don't know why, but I wasn't. I just figured, God was not ready for me to purchase yet. Or he's teaching me that things don't make me happy, it's the freedom that he wants us to have that does.

Basically, I have a house in my name, and student loan. But was told if I pay off the cards and close them all is well.

So once I get the money from the sell of the house, I'll be paying off every single credit card.

Yesterday I received a $7k a year raise after I spoke with the bank and being told I don't make enough. I changed my withholdings so that I have more of my money to do what I need to do vs Uncle Sam and getting a nice refund each year. I've never done this before, because I'm always afraid that I'll owe. But I realize it's better to have my own money, pay my debt vs Uncle Sam. Not to mention, I plan on changing it back around in August so I should be fine.

Today I checked and my tax return should hit my bank account next Wednesday, that means that CC4 will be pretty much gone. Then it's on to number 5. I also sold an item on Poshmark making $16. I'm excited about this. As you all know I've been having a hard time selling things.


The SO finally gave me the money for the plot that he owed, I mailed a check off last night, so he's caught up and that means next Saturday I can transition the debt to him, freeing up $2k. Ugh this has been a nightmare but at least I can get rid of it now.

I realize that a credit score is simply a debt score as Dave Ramsey says, it means nothing if it's high and you make no money. You're just in debt 🤦🏾‍♀️

I received a call from a recruiter at my job, out of the blue. She said that she had found my resume on Indeed. She wanted to know if we could chat. I said yes.

So she goes on to tell me about company X, she wanted to know if I had heard of them. I say no. She then tells me how they're the biggest producer of XYZ, I say to her what's the name of the company? She tells me again and I say OMG I'm sorry I thought you'd said something else. Of course I have heard of X, my dad worked there for 30+ years and retired in the mid 90s. We go on to talk about how I grew up near x and how my dad loved working for them and that I would simply be honored to work for an organization that my father was so proud of. We had a really great chat. She asked if she could forward my resume on to the hiring manager, I say of course.

Long story short, this company is a huge one, they provide stocks, pensions etc you don't have companies like this one anymore. Just the simple fact that 25 years later, and the opportunity to work at a place my dad loved is amazing

It's a hour and a half away, but I already drive a hour with less pay and benefits. Plus my dad had a house out there that I could live in for free.

Finally got my raise, I've been asking since November, not what I wanted but it's, $7k more than I was making. I also sold and item on Poshmark, made $16 so I'm okay.

Proud to say that I've won with money this last week.

One, I paid off a CC 💳; two sold an item on offer up for $15; and lastly packed water, soda and a fruit cup in case I got thirsty or hungry while taking a two hour drive. Packing these items saved me from impulse buying.

How did you win with money this week?

Finally sold the tennis hopper and balls 🎾

I'm adding the $15 made to the EF, I've decided that no matter what, I'm going to add to my EF each pay period at least 2% of my net income, and what ever else I sell will go to the EF.

I remember my dad saying once that if you put $10 out of your check each pay date and save it, pretty soon you'll have so much money that you won't want to touch it. Since I lost my dad, I've been determine to make him proud about what I've done with my money. I want to save and be generous just like him.

Hopefully I can sell some more items. I'm

Well after almost 30 minutes on the phone I was able to find out what my purchase interest rates were on both CC4 and CC5. Unbelievable, it was like pulling teeth and not being a dentist 👩🏾‍⚕️

Strange thing is, the statements only provide cash advance rates (never took a cash advance) but no rates for purchases. Long story short, it's better to pay off CC4 💳. I realized that the $1,000 from the tax return will be better served if thrown at CC4. So that's what I'm doing. I'm going to finalize my return today and hopefully receive my refund in the next 10 days.

I wish I could close these cards, but I won't do so until after closing.

After reading comments from one of my previous posts, I realized there's a Plato Closet near me that I can take some clothing items that didn't sell. Hopefully 🤞🏾, I can get a few dollars to throw at the snowball. I had some one reach out to me for the Ball Hopper, $15, we are suppose to meet tomorrow but you never know.

I'm at work and my coworker is talking about how he just bought this watch (making payments mind you) and how this watch can do everything, you can even have the face, for a price, changed into a brand name item, like Gucci or Louis Vuitton.

Normally, I'd be all over it looking and saying that's nice, even considering buying one but this time I thought how stupid and a waste of money. He even talked about how he had bought a new phone. It took everything in me not to say anything.

Later he brought up the watch again, when it was just he and I, I told him what a waste, you just wasted a part of your retirement and some of your kids college tuition.

The next day, he's talking about this watch trying to justify his purchase, he goes on to explain that men have to have things that make them feel good. I told him, he owes me no explanation and that he can do whatever he liked with his money. I said to him, when you look at how you spend your money, you see what's important to you, and that having nice things, brand names etc are important to him. However being debt free and retiring early are important to me. Neither is better than the other, it's just ones perspective. I apologize and went back to work.

My goal is to pay off two more CCs 💳 and start my 401(k) contributions back up at 8%.

I'm struggling right now because, as soon as I bump my sinking fund, something happens, car repair, tooth and it's back down. I know that I should be using the EF but I just don't want to. I feel good about paying cash for things.

I'll be finishing up my taxes today. I'm looking at about a $1300 refund, I really wanted to throw it all at CC4 but, car insurance is due and my sinking fund is low, so I have to use a part of that money for the car insurance. Plus, I have to fix my tire rod(?) that's another $200 maybe. So all in all I'm looking at maybe just over $700 on CC4. This sucks.

However, I can keep budgeting each month my car insurance, pay $1000 on CC4 knocking it down to about $850 and keep $300 for the tire rod. If I take this route, rather than starting the process of paying the car insurance every six month in April, I'll start in October. I think this option gives me the most satisfaction because I've knocked this CC down, and that's where my motivation comes from, seeing that debt going goodbye.

Last night our city hosted a free reggae concert, so a few of us ladies got together and bought some things to snack on and headed out. I purchased dessert, half priced Valentine's Day sweets 🍭 🍰, and bought a bottle of wine 🍷 that I already had at home. I only spent $7.47

Long story short this was such a great event, and it was free. I realized that having fun doesn't mean spending a ton of money 💰 or any for that matter.

Even the SO thought it was great to attend, and wants to go to the next one 🤔 Hmmm

Finally CC3 is gone! This was the City Furniture bill, over $6,00 in furniture that the SO only help pay twice, I think, once I know for sure. Never again, will I finance furniture. What I have now will last me the rest of my life. Lol

I went to bed, and dreamt about paying this card off today. It's pay day so I'd budgeted to have this bill paid. Good thing about it is the new bill actually generated last night that included any finance charges, so no surprises next month.

OMG! I'm finally free of this debt. Onto CC4, Target Visa. I should have this one paid off by the end of March. My goal was to pay off one CC per quarter and it looks like I'll have two in the first quarter of the yearpaid off.

In other news, my sister called wanting to know if I'd pay the closing cost, if she purchased my dad's house, I told her no. I'm not getting into that, you want it, you pay for it

I spoke with a loan officer, and she told me to hold off from paying my debts off too quickly, I thought this was weird. If I have the money, I'm paying them off

I'm so excited, CC3 will be gone tomorrow.

I'm very OCD and believe that God should get what is his first, so I wrote my check out for my tithes that way when my check hits tomorrow, I can simply log in and pay off CC3. I can't believe it, three CCs paid off in less than one year. Though I didn't really get serious until about August. With my tax return CC4 will be gone. Wow!

Imagine if I had been gazelle intense before, what I could have done.

I started working on the 2/28 budget period and realize I have about $100 extra, Dave is right, you knock these debts out and it feel like you received a raise.

Hi all 👋🏾

It's been a minute but I have a lot to post.

Finally went to court and got the approval to sell the house. Could have sold it to the investor the same day but my big mouth sister got up and started crying and carrying on so the judge opened it up for bidding. Now I have to wait 30 days for offers and close with in 45 days. 🤦🏾‍♀️

Next I fell off the wagon with my budget, buying planner stickers 🤦🏾‍♀️

I finally got around to starting my taxes and it looks like about $1500 will be received, I'll finalize everything this week but if that's the case all is going to CC4.

This week, thank God CC3 should be paid off. I worked in this next budget period to knock it out. I'm so happy this mess will be gone.

I met with a realtor regarding the condo and what the owner is asking, she informed me that the $140k is below market price so it looks like this is the place.

I started my February non-fiction financial book and it's pretty good. It's Michelle Singletary's 21 Day of Financial Fasting.

Lastly, my manager was fired so literally we are on our fourth manager within one year smh. I had to start the process over asking for my raise. I was told that I should know by the end of the week, prayers please.

That's it so far

$200 for my dental 👨🏾‍⚕️ appointment. I'm okay with this because one, I paid cash and secondly I did not need a root canal. My tooth that I thought I cracked was a filling that fell out. But geesh, $200.

I'm glad I started the sinking fund but I'm like geesh! I know this was an emergency but I figured, the fund is for medical, car maintenance etc. I've also bumped what I add to this account by an extra $20 a month.

Next I looked at my pay stub, we don't get paid until 1/31 and I have admin rights, I noticed that due to the new tax bill I have an extra $40, I've never been so happy for an extra $40 in my life. Though I can't stand Trump, I am happy to see a few extra dollars; however, I do think that down the round we will feel the impact of this instant gratification.

After reviewing my pay stub , I reworked my budge for the 100th time. In doing so I noticed that CC5 was due (for some reason I decided to check my balances). I thought that this was strange, because I usually pay this bill really early. Long story short, I soon realized why I had over a $100 buffer in the checking account, the bill wasn't paid. Reason being is that, we got paid early and the new statement hadn't posted, smh. Anyhow took care of it and reworked the budget again 🤦🏾‍♀️. By redoing the budget, paying CC5 I now had money to pay more than the minimum on CC3, thank goodness. This really worried me.

SO other came in and told me he finally got his license taken care of. He mentioned an incident with the ex wife, I basically said, why are you complaining it's not like you're going to take care of it, everything is always late with you. His response was, "he didn't need the negativity" mine was, me either. Too long of a story to explain. Quit complaining and do something about it.

Aldo's run today wasn't so bad.
I picked up paper towels for about $1.20 less than Wal*Mart, a bottle of salsa for dip, about a dollar less and cream cheese about $2 less. Saving about $4. Not bad

There was a time that buying generic was a big no no for me, not anymore. It makes no sense to pay for a brand items that are just as food as off brands. I forgot to buy Lysol wipes for the counters, I'll just improvise.

For my birthday my coworkers got me a birthday cake and then the SO bought me one, so I'm stuck with two cakes 🎂. I decided to have friends over tonight for cake. Normally I'd go all out get some appetizers but not tonight, it's just cake and wine with a little dip and chips. I made sure I told everyone we are just having cake.

Other news, I've been using my planner a lot lately, and it's been helping with getting things done. Cleaned, shopped and read all before noon today.

Now it's time to relax before tonight's get together

Rolled my coin today and have $27.50, this is great because I've already paid tithes on this money.

I only need about $3 to have my BS1 back up to par, so I'll add the money for that.

I was thinking about adding the difference to CC3 but I think I'll add it to my sinking fund. I have the car insurance coming due in April and another pre-Dave event that I paid for early last year coming up 🤦🏾‍♀️🙄.

I posted the tennis hopper with balls for $15 for sale, hopefully it sells. I have three more items (2 pair of jeans 👖 and one dress 👗) to post. I'm slowly but surely decluttering the house 🏡, while hoping to make some money.

I also, applied for a job today. I've exceeded my goal of two a week. Hopefully the right job will come along. I'm looking for a great manager, close to home and decent pay.

Update: received a response on the camera I posted for $40. The buyer wanted to meet at the mall but I said nope, police station only. She agreed so we will be meeting later. $40 to the snowball or sinking fund 😊, not sure yet. I'm just glad that I was able to tentatively sell an item. $4 of course will go to tithes.

Just thought about it, I have to add the funds to the sinking fund. Chipped my tooth last week and have a dentist appointment to have it fixed. Last night it started to give me a little trouble

Well I finished my second book 📚 of the year, "The No Spend Challenge Guide" by Jen Smith; I like this book, it was a pretty quick and easy read, took me one day to complete.

The author provided a few great tips for saving and earning money, that I've highlighted and will try.

Next on my list is a non-financial book, "Fire and Fury."
Though I normally do not share my political views, I consider myself a moderate conservative, and no fan of Trump. I didn't like him when he was a democrat and I don't like him as a republican, but this book is one I'm interested in.

Goal is to read 12 books with year, all non-fiction, a first for me because I normally read fiction

Finished up "Why You Need a Budget?" and I really didn't care for it. I felt like the author was basically selling his product, YNAB. I can't imagine paying someone to creat a simple budget spreadsheet.

Well at least I have my first book of the year in, and starting the second , "The No Spend Challenge Guide" by Jen Smith. This really is a guide, 99 pages, so it's a quick read.

Goals, read one non-fiction (financial) book a month (12 books 📚).

So excited!

I spoke with the rep over at the graveyard and I can give up or transfer that plot to the SO, thank you Jesus!

Only bad news is that we can only make it on the weekends and she's out this Saturday, but I'll be there bright and early on the 27th. Unless he's off Friday, I am, we can go in then. Two years fighting with him to pay his bill on time and I finally just got the nerve to say enough.

Cable was back off yesterday, because once again he did not pay his share. When he comes home tonight, I'm calling the company to see if we can transfer the service to his name, that way I'll give him the money and what ever he does is on him. Literally the cable is off every three months.

I'm counting down the days when I can say, I no longer need a useless roommate. Court scheduled for next month.

The last few days was a no spend day. We went out for my birthday (today's my birthday) for lunch yesterday with coworkers and I spent $10. Not bad but I'm still upset about spending money, I'm always like, I could use that for debt. But oh well.

I'm off for the next three days, so no spending money for me and I'm excited. Not driving a hour each way to work will save me a ton in gas ⛽️ as well.

Now I'm just waiting on W2s and 1095s to file my taxes, any money received will go straight to CC4. Hopefully I'll have number three (3) paid off by mid-February.

Lastly I'm wrapping up, "Why I Need a Budget," it's okay but I'm just not overly excited about the book. I personally didn't like the fact that the author pushes his product, YNAB. One thing that's in the book that stands out for me is the mantra, "debt is not option." I'm going to plaster this all over the place, in my car, on the refrigerator, my wallet, my money envelopes, I want to be reminded that debt is no longer a option.

That's it in a nutshell

I was able to cash the check, thank goodness, this was a nightmare (see Sprint post) and glad it's over.

After paying my tithes from the check received, I can add about
$190 to the EF bringing the total to about $994 just $6 away from my mini EF.

I was so stressed out last week about taking the money out of the EF; however, I'm a true believer that it was all God. I made it a point to pay my tithes with every extra income I had received and though I'm upset for a few minutes when things occur, a calmness then comes over me. The only thing I'm anxious about is getting out of debt and saving money.

Today we're having a chapter meeting and was asked to provide non-perishable items. Normally I'd go out and buy items, I simply took what was in my cabinet that I have not used and don't plan on it any time soon, and bagged it all up. Loving this being intentional with your money concept.

Annoyed as all get out.

My boss has not said one word to me about my salary, I was suppose to know something last week.

I finally received the Sprint check for the full refund, they did not charge a restock fee but it's written to my middle name. Hopefully the bank will cash it. I can throw this money in my EF and that will put me back at the $1,000.

Today was payday, and I was planning on paying off CC3 but since the whole break thing, I couldn't, so I'm bummed about that.

I realize today that the woman never called me back about the plot, so it's on my to do list.

So that's it in a nutshell, hopefully things will start to look up.

Murphy hit yet again.

After getting the brakes repaired, I realized my tooth is cracked. I'd eaten a piece of candy and thought it was that but no it's my tooth.

Then the SO and I went off to the basketball game Sunday. I'd told him weeks ago that I did not want to go, but he claimed that our friends purchased the tickets for him/us since they'd owed us a favor. I think deep down he really wanted to go.

Anyhow we go down to the game. Then we end up having dinner. I'd told him prior to leaving that I was not spending any money. Not for parking, anything. And I didn't.

So we are on our way home, he's driving and we stop for gas long story short, he hits another truck. Jumps out the car and guess what he has no license. I can't continue to live like this. The only good thing about this entire situation is that the driver of the other vehicle had no license either. Smh 🤦🏾‍♂️

He kept apologizing, and I'm like enough already. We have talked about this crap since August and I just can't believe you have not taken care of it. Not only that, you're calling your mother now to bill clients so that you can repair the car. Are you serious? Why not just take over the business from her? What pisses me off is that he's saying the other driver hit him, if that's the case why is bumper damaged and not the front end? Who knows. My disinter looked at the car and said that the other drive hit us but can't do a thing because he has no license.

Then we come home and the cable box is out, I think lightening struck it. Can't call the cable company because once again he has not paid his portion of the cable bill and normally they want their money before any repairs. Smh
Long story short I was able to log in And schedule a maintenance call. The technician came out and we're all set.

In the meantime I did buy a little $15 antenna it works pretty good. I'll return it though for one of the better ones that was out of stock. Once I do that, I'm cutting the cable. He can pay for it if he wants.

Fast forward I wanted to walk out of my job yesterday. That place is a joke! I realize that I never want to be in a position in that I do not want to leave, well can't leave a job. I took another look at my budget. Cut some things and tomorrow I should be able to add $379 back to my EF. I'm annoyed because that money should be going to CC3 to pay it off but I have to beef up the EF since I used the money for breaks. Hopefully I'll have the Sprint check soon, and that should put me back at $1,000.

I got the first estimate of my car $800, I'm thinking they'll reduce if I pay cash who knows. I'm going to try two other places and then put it in the shop. I'm almost certain that this will be an expense in that I occur, SO never has his share for crap. Though he did say he would and so he should, pay for it. I'm not holding my breath.

Next month we go to court, hopefully we can get this house sold and behind us. I can pay off debt and then buy a small one bedroom condo that I can pay off in a few years, rent and then move into a two bedroom villa or something

Ugh I'm need of brakes, total will be $467.85, this includes fluid, disc, rotor etc. I have the EF but I really don't want to use it for that. Next Friday is pay day, I can throw about $200 of this towards the brakes and take the remainder out of the EF. Only drawback is that I won't be able to pay off CC3.

I do have a $10 coupon so that will be a bit of a savings. I'm hoping to have the check from Sprint but then, then that way I won't have to touch the EF. 🙄🤦🏾‍♀️

Well the buyer for the item I posted on OfferUp wanted me to reduce my price to $5 I said no so she canceled, said she wasn't feeling well.

I hate this selling and buying stuff.

I posted another item yesterday, a Polaroid zip mini printer, so we will see. I figured the items posted in the first quarter that does not sell I'll donate, with the exception electronics.

Feeling a little discouraged but I know that these things takes time

Made my first sale on Offer Up. It's a sweater I bought about 10 years ago that I never wore, and it's been sitting in my closet waiting on me to lose weight. 🤦🏾‍♀️🙄

I sold it for $10, so this will go towards CC3. I'm meeting the buyer at the police 👮🏼 station for the swap.

Patience pays off.

Whew with the money SO gave me I used and paid $90 on CC3 , new balance $299.00.

Now I'm just waiting on the Sprint check to come to hopefully pay this sucker off. No more financing furniture for me.

My boss is suppose to be submitting a request for a raise for me, we will see. I do have an interview next week paying more and closer to home.

Went to Sprint to try and return these earbuds I received for Christmas and it was an utter nightmare. Every time I go, they tell me that they do not have cash. This annoys the crap out of me because you only have 14 days to return. And if I was to miss this, then oh well.

The teller tells me she can issue a check but it has to be to someone who has a Sprint account and that person can give me back the money. What! You didn't ask for an account holder when the items were purchased.

I leave the store and call corporate and they're just as bad. The rep calls the store who tells her that I have to be back tomorrow at 3pm to get a refund. Excuse me I work. Long story short, I go to another store who issued a refund check that I should receive within 10 days. The only good thing about this, is that I was not charged the restock fee of $45. I told the SO to never purchase anything from Sprint for me again. Ugh. The refund is $213 and I'll be adding this amount to CC3.

Work news, I asked my boss today for a raise and told him I'd like to know by Friday. So I'm just waiting.

Came home and the SO gave me $100. When I asked what it is for he tells me that I should use it for what ever, so I'm adding this to CC3. I'm sure this is short lived but I'll take it.

His SO debit card was hit for $100, scam. Smh, this is the third person in the last few weeks that I know who have been hit by a thief.

Today was a friend's birthday. She wanted me to go bowling 🎳 and I'm like nope, goal is paying down my debt. This same friend is wanting every one to join her on a party 🎉 bus 🚌 for her birthday this weekend, cost $30. Nope, not doing this either. She'll be getting a regift of wine from me for her birthday costing me zip. This same friend complains that she needs to get a part time or another job paying her more money because she's broke. I told her what I was doing but hey it's up to her what she wants to do.

Lastly, I'm reading "Why You Need a Budget." It's pretty good. I know why I need a budget, but my goal is to read one financial book a month and quite frankly you can always learn something new about things you already know.

What a day!

Completed my daily devotional, went to church to serve for a bit.
Tried taking those earbuds back and was told to comeback because the store did not have cash, what!
This so annoyed me, going back tomorrow. Stickers for my planner, and went to both Aldi's and Publix.
All items were budgeted so I'm okay with it.

Tomorrow I'm back to the office. The good news for me is that mean/idiot woman of a manager was let go today. Though I hate for anyone to lose their job, she needed to go. I'll be asking for my raise that she cheated me out of.

SO other keeps bugging me. I say to him, when are you going to figure it out that I'm not happy? Until this foolishness of wasteful spending is under control and my expenses that you're responsible for is caught up it will never work. I tried having a conversation and he just walked off, saying "okay". WTF!
I then say this is the issue, you never want to talk about finances that is the problem that I have with you. 🤦🏾‍♀️🙄

Tomorrow I'll be retiring those stupid earbuds and adding to CC3 hopefully this will knock it down to about $239
Edit:
Out the blue SO came over said he wants to get married and he understands my frustration. He says he heard me the few 100x before. He goes on to say "are you sure you want me on this ride?" I explain it's not about me. He has to want better and live better and that it's up to him and I will not marry, or continue to live like this. I'm done, you can say what you want but actions speaks louder than words. I guess he's thinking it's my birthday and I want gifts 🎁 . Only gift I want is the debt gone.

On to other news, a really good friend sent an invite for a birthday bash on a party bus. Though I would love to go, I'm not. It's $30 for the bus and then I would have to turn around and provide a gift. Nope not doing it. I'll regift a bottle of wine 🍷 that was given to me, and say happy birthday. I'm done ✅ with doing things that throw me off track.

Well this is off topic, but I'm praying Alabama wins, this Florida girl loves the Tide.

Fingers crossed.

Happy New Year everyone! 🎆